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To want a new sofa?

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MortifiedAdams · 14/09/2013 22:30

We bought our house six years ago and furnished it with second hand goods, donations of furniture and stuff from.our rooms at the family homes.

Our sofa is comfy, and was free, and has seen us well, however it was old when we got it. The body of the sofa is stained (watermarks from spills, bloody suede!!), and the back cushions are torn (all four), on one side so we constantly are making sure they are arranged not to be seen.

It was like thos when we got it.

I have seen a sofa on DFS that would totally suit.our home. We redecorated our Living Room a good six+ months ago and the sofa looks out.of place. The sofa I have seen would cost us 11.48 pcm on their four year interest free service.

We could afford to pay £50 pcm so could pay it off within the year.

I asled DH to take a look at the sofa and received a straight "no" He is a make do and mebd type of man. Do I push him?

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swingyerpants · 15/09/2013 06:55

Could you compromise, as in, you buy the sofa but he doesn't have to sit on it

Longdistance · 15/09/2013 07:03

You're not impulsive, you want your home surroundings to look nice.

Our sofa was bought in 2001 (cream leather) and we have used it to death. It's looking very tired now, I bought it when I lived on my own. We're about to buy a new one, and gonna give this one away free on Gumtree in Oz, and buy a new one.

I'm going off to check DFS website or ideas now :)

PrimalLass · 15/09/2013 07:20

Oh that is nice, but the back looks very low. Are either of you tall?

StHelenInPerson · 15/09/2013 07:21

Might be seen as extreme but why not get the sofa you have redone in new material/cushion etc might be cheaper I don't know but if there's nothing wrong with the sofas structure then why not?

amyshellfish · 15/09/2013 07:52

its only 500 quid or so at the moment, you can easily afford it and you want it - why does he get to tell you that you cant have it?! id be telling him id been thinking about it for months and now its on sale im going to buy it. nothing wrong with credit if you can afford it :)

littlewhitebag · 15/09/2013 08:32

We had an old sofa in our family room which our kids loved but it was scruffy and stinky. Last year we bought a lovely corner sofa from DFS and now the kids agree that the old one was manky and the new one is better.

I am sure your DH would love the new one - it's just getting him to agree to it. I would have a very nasty accident with some coffee soon if i was you....

soapysam · 15/09/2013 08:47

I'm in the same situation. 6 months ive been begging for new sofas and nothing. I want to torch the crappy busted ripped sagging sofas and force his hand.

marriedinwhiteisback · 15/09/2013 08:56

I think you are both wrong. If the old one is still usable and if you can pay off the debt at 50pcm over the year then you should save up for a year and pay cash. Then, arguably you really can afford it. If you save up, you might find it gets reduced in the sales or a better 800 sofa is reduced to less than 500 or you might be able to haggle a bit over the price.

For those saying recover, that's actually disproprotionately expensive unless the sofa has explicit value. A recent quote for a two seater sofa that originally cost 600 in the sale, albeit with new back and bottom cushions was 750!!!

I'd buy a throw OP until you can pay cash.

nurseneedshelp · 15/09/2013 09:03

I would just order it, as long as you can afford it, what's the problem?

My dp would never say no, everything is up for discussion in our house and I wouldn't dream of asking his "permission" to buy something!

Is your dh controlling in any other way op?

I hate the thought of having to "make do"

KatyPutTheCuttleOn · 15/09/2013 09:22

I would also save up, it's much more satisfying that way, plus you never know what is round the corner financially. I have very little money but I am debt free and that means a lot to me.

sleepyMe12 · 15/09/2013 09:40

Just order it.

Cat98 · 15/09/2013 09:53

Haha - I'm like your dh. My dh wants a new sofa. There's nothing wrong with the one we have! (Apart from it being just a 2 seater - it would be nice to have a larger one, but while this one is ok imo we should make do!)
We are 'discussing' this at the moment. We are not exactly rolling in it, and I think there are more important things at the moment for us to spend the money on.
So I'm going to give you a gentle yabu - plus I don't think you being 'the breadwinner' is relevant if you are a partnership...

Cat98 · 15/09/2013 09:54

Eh? It's not 'controlling' (sorry can't see who posted that) to want to discuss and jointly agree what household funds are spent on! It's disrespectful to just go out and buy something expensive without agreeing it with your partner imo.

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MortifiedAdams · 15/09/2013 09:58

Right, I have brought this up again this morning after he has finally looked at the sofa I like and he agrees he likes it too. He said his concern is the tied in for four years scheme. Wish je could have said this yesterday instead of just a blanket no.

Has agreed to go and see the sofa and I said we can discuss with the shop paying it off quicker.

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intheduskwiththelightbehindher · 15/09/2013 10:03

I can understand your frustration. We've had our sofa 9 years and it was 2nd hand on ebay when we got it. I'd love a new one and to redecorate the living room, but a) we can't afford it and b) DP is quite controlling when it comes to decorating. It's part of another issue I'm dealing with elsewhere.
Save up, and just get it, he'll probably love the way it looks!

quoteunquote · 15/09/2013 11:00

Put the money you would be paying on finance away in a saving account each month,

at the end of the year you decide if you want to buy a sofa.

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MortifiedAdams · 15/09/2013 19:43

update we got the sofa!

Eeek!

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bundaberg · 15/09/2013 20:39

yay :-D

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