to think my friend is being insensitive (animals)

[Kacie1985]

She lives next to a 24 hr vet's and she's complaning that she can hear people crying loudly - balling she calls it and she says she could hear it at 11:30 at night yesterday and it was freaking her out. Should I tell her to shut the f,,,I mean her windows and stop being insensitive? Anyone had similar that could help?

A twenty-four hour vet is never not going to have late night emergencies, and a fair few are always going to be bad outcomes.

I think I'd move house.

On the other hand, if she can't moan about the genuine inconvenience to a friend who can she moan to? She's not planning to go out there and tell people off for daring to let go of their emotions at losing part of their family is she? She's got to vent, far better she vents on you than on some poor soul who's just had to see a much loved companion PTS.

Constant crying? How bad is this vet?!

DameDeepRedBetty, moving house seems a bit OTT because it's not all the time, and she did say she wasn't going to complain because they're not doing it onpurpose.

does the vet look like this ?

YABU she may be insensitive but she's not saying it TO them is she - so no harm done

It's not constantly it's sometimes, but it upsets or scares her even though she knows it's not domestic violence or whatever.

She finding it distressing hearing people going through trauma, and she told you (her friend?) about it?

Insensitive would be, Opening her window and throwing a bucket of water out shouting, "Shut the fuck up, it is only a fucking hamster"

YABVU. She's said she's not gong to complain, she says she understand that people aren't doing it on purpose, so what's your problem? She's just having a little moan to a friend about something not very nice that happens in her life.

I'd find it upsetting to regularly hear people very upset outside my house late at night. Maybe not scary, but I think it is quite upsetting to hear people in genuine distress.

It shows she has a heart and compassion. You could do with some of that.

Why is she being insensitive? I don't get what's insensitive about having a little moan about something she finds difficult.

BrokenSunglasses I do have some! That's why I thought she was being insensitive, not sure what I thought she should do instead though. I did ask what to do as well though, I said in my first post.

Theres nothing she can do (maybe double glazed windows might drown it out slightly if doesnt have them already). sounds like shes just ranting at you as a friend and doesnt particularly need anything to change or realistically can change. if u cant sound off to a friend who can u sound off too.