Name calling

[Hemlet]

Hi all, I would like to ask you something.
Would you consider it calling someone a bitch, if they said you were acting like s bitch?

It actually was a sarky and quite bitchy thing to say, tbh! I think your mutual friend was right to expect only congratulations and nice things to be said at her news. I was brought up along the 'if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all' lines. Clearly you weren't if the person bringing you up was your Mum.

ilovesooty, I would like you on my DDs side any day of the week and you would be. She gets picked on quite a bit and is lovely and desperate to fit in.

I disagree MammaTJ

why not take it at face value
"it's amazing what you can qualify in these days."

not sarcastic at all

if it had been "qualify", then yes thats sarcy!

I support Sooty on this one. Little Queen Bee might just have taken this comment on board!

Did things settle down for the victim afterwards?

As for the original point, I go back to my standard position on FB rows (and twitter and text rows too) - doesn't matter how many emoticons you use, the opportunity to misinterpret writing when you can't see the face or hear the voice multiplies exponentially, hence so many FB moans here and in RL.

The victim still had a rotten time of it but that girl never behaved as badly in a PE lesson again.
The AT repeated to her what I'd said, told her he agreed with my assessment of her behaviour and told her that bullying was unacceptable. The madam returned to complain to me about what I'd said about her behaviour when reporting her.

I think your mums comment sounds sarky and sort of looking down on your mate, whether intended or not. Think about it what if her mum had said that to you how would you feel?

equally all this rubbish about she never called your mum a bitch but her behaviour well what a load of codswollop! Isn't a persons behaviour a part of that individual or is it a separate entity if I've ever heard a pathetic justification for disrespecting another person that ihas got to be the best one by far! I know if my friend ever used language like that towards my mother shed no longer be a friend of mine unless she did some serious grovelling.

I think you're all right in getting rid of the friend. Funny thing is it was such an odd relationship.

We were like sisters but every now and again she'd ask me to do something (pay for and make 30 invites for her baby shower) or just something to bring me down (revoking my status as godmother to her daughter the day before the christening)

I'm a div to be putting up with it and I told her everything about her attitude and how she needed to chill out (she had a panic attack and posted on Facebook for someone to take her to hospital) I wrote nothing nasty and would be happy for anyone to see it. I suffer from seizures and had one in front of her fairly recently. Then a few days later she said her mum had faked a fit. She has a very odd relationship with her parents, either lovey dovey when she needs babysitters, or malicious awful spiteful things to be said about them.

And with regard to the comment, mum meant it as in her day you could only qualify in bring s doctor or whatever and she was surprised that you could qualify for it! She should maybe have put a smiley on the end to confirm the tone but I think it's beyond get capabilities!

It's the sort of thing my Dad would say Hemlet there is definitely a generational thing there. Or he would say 'What the bloody hell is nail jelling?'. he's not on FB. Thankfully.

based on your explanation your mum want being sarky perhaps explain that to your friend about the generation gap. Also I would ask a. Apology aswell why use that language between friends pure Nastiness.

ilove

As far as I can see it the AH acted unprofessionally not you. You were speaking to another member of staff. Wouldn't expect you to speak as delicately to another member of staff as you might to an acting pupil. That would be weird!

*actual not acting