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AIBU to think that this woman in the Chocolate Apothecary should be shot?

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VaultFullOfTwizzlers · 13/09/2013 22:49

She and her DH were at the counter selecting the twenty handmade artisanal chocolates which would cost them twenty quid when their DS who looked to be about six slid off the high barstool behind them onto the floor despite him being watched by his teenaged sister who reacted immediately.

He made a bit of a thump going down but didn't cry and the DH went straight over to check him BUT I was absolutely appalled that after a brief turn of head this sorry excuse for a mother just continued to concentrate on the merits of salted caramel, lime, rum and coconut, kirsch, strawberry and champagne pistachio, peanut butter, limoncello and amaretto chocolate instead of assisting her husband with their potentially but not upset or injured offspring. Spme people!

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VaultFullOfTwizzlers · 13/09/2013 22:58

ALERT ALERT this is a thread about how I felt a bit judged by a staff member for continuing to choose chocolates while DH was dealing with a DCs needs.

Lighthearted responses r.e DC and things you love apart from those telling me this should have been in chat which I know and am sorry for Sad

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PomBearWithAnOFRS · 13/09/2013 22:58

I have five, and if they aren't bleeding or on fire, they are fine.
Running to them exclaiming and cooing and panicking at the slightest little bump just makes them waily waily waily and drama kings/queens.
If they are really hurt they will let me know, but a little splat/bump/out of a tree/off their bike/scooter or something - nah.
yabu.

gobbynorthernbird · 13/09/2013 22:59

I'd say she's got her priorities in the right order.

She could see he was ok, and her OH & DD were dealing with the boy. What's the problem?

PomBearWithAnOFRS · 13/09/2013 22:59

I would have looked the judger straight in the eye and said "I have 5 children and NO chocolate - what would you have me do????" with eyebrown raised Wink

gobbynorthernbird · 13/09/2013 23:00

X-post.

Were the chocs yummy?

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VaultFullOfTwizzlers · 13/09/2013 23:09

They are so treaty that they will last me a month Grin

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VaultFullOfTwizzlers · 13/09/2013 23:11

Grin at five children and NO chocolate

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MacaYoniandCheese · 13/09/2013 23:28

Grin Reminds me of the time DS2 (6) fell off the side of the shopping cart in the grocery store (which he does almost every time I bring him along because I encourage occasionally allow him to 'trolley surf' to pass the time). A member of staff witnessed the fall and told a supervisor who came to find us, mid-shop, to fill out an accident report Confused. DS was clearly uninjured, did not cry and was apparently in rude health...

cakewitch · 13/09/2013 23:31

You did the right thing. i would not have judged you.

mrspremise · 13/09/2013 23:32

TBH, unless DS was actually on fire, with a stick in his eye, YANBU Smile

Onesleeptillwembley · 13/09/2013 23:32

Blood not spurting, nothing fallen off, they're fine. You know your own child well enough way before that age to know if they're hurt.

Floggingmolly · 13/09/2013 23:33

Twenty chocolates will last you a month??? Shock

BrianTheMole · 13/09/2013 23:33

Fuck no. I wouldn't have judged you. He was still breathing, still alert and not crying. I would have done the same. Enjoy your chocolate.

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VaultFullOfTwizzlers · 13/09/2013 23:41

Maca Shock r.e the incident form.

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gobbynorthernbird · 13/09/2013 23:51

A month? Now you are most definitely BU.

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VaultFullOfTwizzlers · 13/09/2013 23:54

I did try to make a joke about potentially hurt child versus very good chocolate but still felt a bit judged. DS is autistic and I have had so much shit on a three day holiday that I don't think I'll bother again.

My AIBU was meant to lighthearted though. Like Daddy or Chips Grin

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onlyfortonight · 13/09/2013 23:57

I only go when I hear THAT scream...you know, the blood curdling, heart wrenching scream of a properly hurt child. Anything else is a 'learning experience'.

Mmm...chocolate... Great choice of flavours. I'm dead jealous Envy

QuintessentialShadows · 13/09/2013 23:58

Well, he had a teenager sister and his dad looking out for him, you clearly needed to concentrate on chocolate.

Yabu on one account though. Lemoncello. Ugh. I love chocolate, I love lemon, but NOT together.

kickassangel · 13/09/2013 23:58

I hope you took full advantage of your dh being distracted to pick your favorites not his. Next time, take a pin and jab one of the kids so he asks them why they screamed, then cram a couple of chocolates in your mouth as he's looking away.

Hth.

bellabelly · 13/09/2013 23:59

Ah. But you have a vagina. Therefore you are supposed to CARE when child/ children sort of hurts himself but not really. It's no good pointing to your DH who is dealing with it all fine. He doesn't have a vagina, you see.

QuintessentialShadows · 14/09/2013 00:00

Well, having one of those means she must care about chocs, too.

starsandunicorns · 14/09/2013 00:05

My dd used to start crying if I would run over to cover her embrassment if not bleeding and arms and legs not at wired angles or hanging off all fine enjoy your choclate

bellabelly · 14/09/2013 00:06

Haha, yes that's true, Quint.

FutTheShuckUp · 14/09/2013 00:06

This would have been me, DH would tell me off but meh, really. The kid was ok and the chocs sound amazing

TSSDNCOP · 14/09/2013 00:09

Bella you have clearly not read Caveat IV subsection XII which specifically exonerates those mid totes exotic chocolate selection whilst child under alternative supervision.

May I politely suggest you re-visit your updated Handbook.

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