to think this is really bad,and wonder why you'd publish it?

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www.tes.co.uk/article.aspx?storycode=2054386

I was reading the Educating Yorkshire thread, and then I read this. If even some teachers think it's ok to bully the 'odd' individuals, that pupils have 'a responsibility not to make things worse,' then what is the point of having anti-bullying policies?

I can see why you might think, at the end of a long term, "oh, if child X just stopped being so blimmin' pretentious and kept their head down, they wouldn't get picked on," but why would you put in out in the public?

Well...........pretentious kids are annoying!

The air of superiority would make even the kindest person want to hit them!

Especially if they can't back it up with results.

The link was not talking about a child with SN, just one who had 'Little Prince' instilled in him by his mother. Totally different things.

Well...........pretentious kids are annoying!

The air of superiority would make even the kindest person want to hit them!

What an awful thing to say.

I'm a kind person and the only people I'd ever want to hit are people with Mamma's attitude. :)

He's right.

There's being eccentric, & there's being Ostentatiously Up Your Own Arse.

In school being OUYOA will get you thumped by the Tysons of this world, which is of course something from which school staff expend much time protecting them.

It won't make you many friends once you leave, tbh.

Having this gently explained by a teacher can't hurt, if your adoring parents can't or won't see it...

It's tricky - the piece seems to be saying that parents' attitudes can contribute to the likelihood of a child being bullied, which I completely agree with, in the same way that they contribute to a child being a bully. But then to turn it on the child so much seems a step too far.

My daughter was bullied all the way through school. Her primary head told me the problem was my daughter, she kept wanting to make friends and kept wanting to play with the other children. She felt that the nastiness would stop as soon as my daughter accepted that the other kids didn't like her and just left them alone.

A horrid judgmental article. Has the author not stopped to consider that a bullied child who ends up in the role of "odd one out" (and is clearly placed in that position by the teachers as well) might develop an air of "superiority" as a defence? I'm sure the kid probably doesn't feel superior underneath, but low and bullied. Teachers should be able to resist this kind of scapegoating and mobbing. Victim blaming, too - it's a nasty kind of attitude that excuses buying by implying the victim did something to cause or deserve it.

*bullying not buying - bloody autocorrect, gah

Couldn't agree with you more georgettemagritte

Sometimes when a child is bullied, work needs to be done to make a victim less of a victim. This may be work around social skills or assertiveness. Tactfully getting the victim of bullying to recognise that they can act to make themselves less if a target is challenging.

That article belittled the victim and excused the bully, unpleasant.

WestieMamma that is totally different to what the article is talking about. That is sad and wrong. My own DD has had this too.

I do not send her out in to the world thinking she is better than everyone else and looking down on them. I am sure you didn't either. A totally different set of circumstances.

I know some kids whos parents send them out in the world thinking they are better than everyone else. They feel they need to make zero effort and the world will worship them! Newsflash, that does not work!

sydlexic and tall, lacking argument, but making nasty statements is just the kind of thing the author is aiming at!! Way to prove my point!