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miffed at painted child

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Insanityismymiddlename · 13/09/2013 15:26

I will probably be told IABU and I think I am a little but DC3 has just walked in from preschool with her face painted, she looks really cute and is very happy with it but I am concerned I wasn't asked for permission as DS1 left last year and he has eczema and had this have been him with his face painted he would be scratching his face raw by now.

I would have just thought it would be sensible to ask parents before using products on young childrens faces, I mean we had permission slips for them to use the preschools suncream so why would facepaints be different AIBU?

I don't want to be a spoil sport and DC3 is fine and I wouldn't go all guns blazing either just a little miffed.

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Rooners · 13/09/2013 15:29

Yes they should have asked first.

I got ds1's face painted once at a local thing, it was a hot day and somehow he reacted to the paint and came up in big water blisters on his face.

I also suspect that using a product that is shared between however many children's faces is likely to cause cross contamination.

Very silly thing to do without permission.

BarbarianMum · 13/09/2013 15:30

I'm suprised you weren't asked for permission - you would be at our preschool, for exactly the reason you mentioned.

You could have a quiet word. Equally you could leave it to someone whose child does have eczema to speak up.

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Insanityismymiddlename · 13/09/2013 15:57

Oh dear god she has been home 1/2hr and its all over my sofa and my doors and she wont let me wash it off and has ran off screaming so no doubt its going to be all over her bedding as she will dive head first into her bed to hide from me.

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fluffyraggies · 13/09/2013 16:03

Oh dear. Hopefully it will be easy to wash off OP. Not too oily.

They should have asked you first. re: allergic reactions.

AndHarry · 13/09/2013 16:06

They should definitely have asked you first. At all 3 nurseries I've used I've been given a permission slip to sign to allow them to use face paints on my DC.

mrspremise · 13/09/2013 18:02

You are right to be concerned; they really should have checked (even if just verbally at the start of the session). I would have a word too, perhaps (clutches at straws) no one realised that allergy could be an issue?

Alisvolatpropiis · 13/09/2013 18:05

I thought checking this kind was thing was ok with the parents (who will have to deal with paint over everything at home) was the norm?

Smoorikins · 13/09/2013 18:07

Don't you fill in forms when your child is enrolled to detail any conditions like eczema?

I've always had to.

Not that they necessarily check them...

valiumredhead · 13/09/2013 19:33

Parents should always be asked because of allergic reactions.

Turniptwirl · 13/09/2013 19:44

They should've asked but as your DC is fine I wouldn't bother making a big deal of it to the nursery.

greenbananas · 13/09/2013 19:45

I think it's an Ofsted requirement that you be asked about stuff like this. Ideally, you should have given written permission.

Very irresponsible because of possible allergic reactions, eczema etc. Also highly inconvenient for parents who were about to take their child clothes shopping or to Grannys or something. You should have been warned.

commuterbelt · 13/09/2013 19:49

face painting reactions are quite rare as long as they use good products in the first place but yes they should have asked persmission. I would just mention it to them and they will most probably do a permission form. Give them the chance to rectify

MammaTJ · 13/09/2013 20:59

If is Snazaroo face paint, they are safe to use anyway. If it is any other brand of face paint, YANBU!

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Insanityismymiddlename · 14/09/2013 12:45

Glad IANBU in thinking they should have asked permission I was expecting a flaming.

I finally got all the paint off last night and although her face was slightly red for a while (probably from my scrubbing) her skin is fine.

Any allergies and skin conditions are filled out in a form when they first join however I don't suppose they would have checked every single file.

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Canthisonebeused · 14/09/2013 13:38

Snazaroo white face paint stings and leaves my dds face red, do it may be safe but it is certainly not comfortable for dd to use.

uselessinformation · 14/09/2013 15:13

Weren't you given a form asking about allergies when you first enrolled? I've always had a form when enrolling for any type of school our club and always write white face paint in the allergies section.

McNewPants2013 · 14/09/2013 15:19

When dd started school there was permission forms, I can't even remember what I had exactly signed for so can't 100% that if face paint was one of them.

However they should of warned you before hand.

Sparklymommy · 14/09/2013 16:41

My kids preschool used to periodically paint their finger nails! Supposedly the children had to ask for the colours they wanted and that was teaching them. My sons loved it, as did dd, but it always seemed to be around the time of the dance school exams or show time and I always found myself scrubbing the damn stuff off in the dance school office!

maddy68 · 14/09/2013 18:37

Surely you tell them of any allergies before ou start pre school. I think your being very precious tbh

greenbananas · 14/09/2013 22:45

My child has allergies, and I know from experience that preschool workers do not always realise that stuff like face paint could contain allergens. If you write on a form that your child is allergic to nuts and eggs, they don't think to check if the hand soap in the loos contains sweet almond oil, if the tempura paint on the craft table might have egg in it etc.

They should have checked with parents beforehand. As I said earlier, I think this an ofsted requirement.

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