To be pissed off with being passed over for training?

[Souredstones]

Got told today (end of first week back after a few weeks off following a miscarriage) that I'm not eligible for a training opportunity due to not being in the team long enough.

Fair enough thought I. Try again next time.

Colleague opposite, who joined 6 months after me, bounces up to me announcing their place on the course and wondering if I'm going too.

I can only think its because senior management are of the opinion that I've had a MC (had to tell them as its on my sick notes) so am TTC and will be falling pregnant in the near future.

I'm seething but don't know if I'm righ to be.

You need to actually ask senior management outright.

Ask them why your colleague has been given a place when they started 6 months after you.

Is it possible the applications were made when you were off work?

Sorry for your loss

Sorry for your loss.

I don't think you've anything to lose by asking them. "If I'm not going because I haven't been here long enough then how come X is going whose been here 6 months shorter"

But I'd suspect it was arranged while you were absent, and being present when decisions like that are made increases your chance considerably. They may have taken the decision with sympathy" we don't want to put too much on her plate when comes back."

I would also ask if they can consider you for the next training of that course, make it clear you're keen to do it.

YANBU to be pissed off, but if you've had a lot of time off and you are planning on having a lot more time off, I can understand why the company would rather invest in people that they are the most likely to get a god return on.

You need to ask them. Hope they realise absence due to a mc is the same as absence due to complications of pg, ie can't be viewed as part of your normal absence record. I think they are on dodgy ground if actually denying you chance to do the course because they know you are ttc. The colleague who did get a place could currently be pg, for all they know.

Definitely ask why you have been told something that doesn't stack up with the facts.

I was treated appallingly by my then manager after mc and I was always led to believe this was the company stance. It wasn't until I raised a grievance (after by 3rd mc under the same manager) that it all came in to the open and she had been acting quite independently.

I'm not saying this is in any way the case where you are, but for me questioning it (eventually) was the right thing and I have ended up much better off as a result. (evil manager left under a cloud for unrelated reasons)

So sorry for your loss please stand up for yourself, if only to out your own mind at rest.