To think oh "STFU" and give no further consideration to this "parenting concern" from ds's Dad?

[Sparklysilversequins]

Apparently he is "concerned" that ds eats coco pops for breakfast twice a week as its nothing more than "sugary air". Ds usually has eggs or bacon or toast on the other days but these coco pops are a REAL issue apparently. We have had two heated phone calls about it in the last 24 hours .

He's my ex by the way.

[Sparklysilversequins]

And actually IS sugary air twice a week really THAT bad?

[TobyLerone]

Nope. My DS is 13 and had breakfast this morning for the first time in weeks. Homemade banana bread smothered in Nutella

[Bogeyface]

It kills me that the same people saying "its sugary air" will happily post on other threads about McDonalds and Nutella.....because thats packed full of nutrients isnt it?!

Nah, twice a week and no meltdowns is fine imo. My kids had sausage sandwiches for tea because ~I couldnt be arsed to cook, no food issues here just a lazy arsed mother :o

[Sparklysilversequins]

Oh I would LOVE it if my dc would eat my banana bread. They turn their noses up at it in favour of shop bought fairy cakes!

[TobyLerone]

I'm very lucky with DS. He will eat anything (and everything)!

[FreudiansSlipper]

i wonder what is really bothering him i doubt it is the coco pops he is having twice a week

the ex when he wants to get at me will go on about ds vests being too small :) every fucking time

[kali110]

Yes both should be allowed their input on what goes on with their child, however considering the child isnt even able to stay with him think the op gets more input.
Op i wouldnt worry aslong as your son is healthy and eating. Personally if my child wanted to eat small bowl of cocopops every day but was having healthy diet the rest of the day id be fine. My parents were constantly trying to get me to tey diff things for breakfast. Put me off so much i stopped ( and still rarely) have breakfast. I cannot stand anything sloppy (can only eat dry cereal) especially things like porridge weatabix or ready break etc even the smell makes me sick . My mum would have happily given me coco pops to get me to eat something.

[Hissy]

There is only one thing worse than a helicopter parent, and that's a seagull parent.

spends most of the time doing fuck all, swoops in, craps over everything, and swoops off again.

Crap dad's like that don't get to say fuck all when it comes to parenting.

When he's manned the fuck up and actually assumed proper responsibility, THEN he can proffer his input.

In a perfect world, a father does what needs to be doing, puts his child's needs above his own, and is an active and equal parent for his child.

This 'man' isn't that man. FAR from it.

Stfu is all he's due.

[veryconfusedatthemoment]

It sounds very controlling to me, but then I have just had similar conversations with my ex on another matter. It is pushing boundaries. My advice is to keep a log of these "complaints" and how you responded. My legal team are convinced my ex will try to file for residency on grounds of my poor parenting so by keeping the log I will be hoping to show that the many minor complaints are vexatious rather than serious concerns.

[Onebuddhaisnotenough]

Hissy says all I want to say.

Back seat, sea gulling, nob ending part time parents. Tell him to focus his bloody energy on finding somewhere decent to live so that he can start being a proper parent to your son. THEN he can start criminalising the coco pops.

'gavel'

[MistressDeeCee]

oooo Coco Pops today then if you'd caved in on that OP what would he think of to nag about tomorrow? It'd go on..& on..& on. Control freaks are always banging on about one thing or another to do with their hunger to change and control. Yep, he needs to stfu

Hissy - very well said. & ' seagull parenting ' I've not heard that one before! Love it...

[Bogeyface]

Another vote here for "seagull parenting"

spends most of the time doing fuck all, swoops in, craps over everything, and swoops off again.

I wish I had the ability to condense 10 years of bullshit into one sentence, I really do!

[YouTheCat]

That is a brilliant expression.

[Misspixietrix]

^EXACTLY What Hissy just said. My Seagull parent flew in today to literally shit all over us and leave Dd in tears! I went batshit at him . When you have the DCs for more than once in a bloody Blue moon. When you have actually took them to the dentist etc. THEN you get to comment on diet health etc. Until then FO to the Far side of F! He sounds like hes just trying to bait you OP by being a nitpicking twat. Dont rise to it like I did earlier

[TobyLerone]

He literally shat all over you? I hope you called the police.

[burberryqueen]

@ "literally shat on you" - jeez what a nasty man

[TyrannosaurusBex]

BBC2 did a short series a few years ago where a scientist/mum of twins did research into most educational toy etc. One programme set out to find out whether the likes of coco pops for breakfast a couple of times a week was harmful. The conclusion was that it was not a big deal and waaaaay preferable to barely eating any of a more nutritious breakfast. Don't THINK it was sponsored ny Nestlé

[ChippingInNeedsSleepAndCoffee]

Hissy

There is only one thing worse than a helicopter parent, and that's a seagull parent. Spends most of the time doing fuck all, swoops in, craps over everything, and swoops off again

I am so stealing that :)


Sparkly ignore ignore ignore... ignore some more. This, I suspect, is a lot more about him being a controlling twat than what DS is actually eating. Seagulls are best ignored :)

However, (in my not so humble opinion - LOL) coco pops are terrible for breakfast as they are just sugar and do horrid things to your blood glucose levels, so best avoided whenever possible. However, I also know 'food' is very difficult with some children who have SN's and you do what you have to do. Are there any other 'quick' protein based breakfasts that DS would find suitable?

• Cheese & ham
• Full fat yogurt with berries
• Avocado, cheese & seeds (food doctor do some really nice ones!)
• Left-overs

That kind of thing? Or are they all a big fat no-go?

[Misspixietrix]

TobyLerone and BurberryQueen no not literally Sorry I was a tad okay very! emotional last night He may as Well have done though the stress he causes. He told his 7yo Dd he was going to disown her If she disrespected him again . Sorry for hijacking OP. I know Dentists dont like coco pops but I hardly think a treat once or twice a week is going to seriously Damage Ds's health. :)

[Misspixietrix]

The was aimed at the ex by the way I dont want to start any bun fights unintentionally . Oooh OP wasnt they a thing about Special K being full of sugar a while back. So really Cocopops Isnt really that harmful is it?

[ipswichwitch]

Well when he's actually done some parenting then maybe he can comment on/criticise yours. They're coco pops not crack cocaine, and as long as a diet is pretty healthy the rest of the time, I don't see once of twice a week being a major issue.
Fwiw, my nephew is autistic and I know how difficult it is getting him to eat anything. SIL would be overjoyed at him eating breakfast never mind a decent cooked one.

[MoominsYonisAreScary]

That discribes ds1s dad down to the ground. I really cant get all excited or judgy about sugary air or whatever a couple of times a week.

[TobyLerone]

Oh, misspixie, I was being a pedantic arse and I'm sorry

Your ex can join the Pisswizards' Club, of which my ex is Grand High Pisswizard and the OP's ex is Treasurer.

[Misspixietrix]

IpswichWitch at "They're Coco Pops. Not Crack Cocaine". TobyLerone No need to apologise :). I've called him many names before under my breath but I'm definately sticking with Pisswizard in future! My DM sent me a text where she was sarcastically calling him "His Lordship" and it autocorrected to "His Lordshit". Saving that one too!

[TobyLerone]

:o