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.... to expect my partner to know how to operate his phone.

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FrauMoose · 12/09/2013 19:48

My husband has a good professional job and for at least the last 5 years has had the use of a Blackberry paid for by work. He also has a secretary who, when he was away from the office communicates with him via the Blackberry, mostly I think by email/text etc.

My husband, who is of mature years, sometimes has blocks/blanks about some quite basic bits of technology. Despite this he uses a PC and laptop on a daily basis, and has recently started being able to load material onto a website.

This evening I am quite busy, but wanted to give him some messages before going out. So I rang the Blackberry, got voicemail and left him all the relevant info. Five minutes later I was in the middle of something and he rang me.

I said, 'Did you get my message?'
He said, 'No'
I said, 'Well check your Blackberry. All the information's there, and I'm in the middle of something right now.'
He then asked me to tell him what I'd said. And I said no.
He then claimed he didn't know how to access the voicemail on his Blackberry.
I told him this was ridiculous and I had left him messages on his voicemail on quite a few earlier occasions. If he had temporarily forgotten how accessing voicemail he had time - he's on a 80 minute train journey - to work out/remember how it's done.

Do you feel it's unreasonable to be exasperated?

It is also my birthday. (He left the house shortly after 7 and it is unlikely I will actually see him till 11pm.) No gifts have been given as I have failed to state what I wanted. I don't terribly mind about him not being around today or the absence of presents. We'll have a birthday meal at the weekend.

But for some reason the phone incompetence does rankle.

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exaltedwombat · 12/09/2013 20:25

I HATE messages, except for simple information. They so often become ultimatums - "This is how it's going to be, no discussion allowed". And could you have been a LITTLE unreceptive, considering the birthday situation? Would ANYTHING he did have rankled :-)

Hamwidgeandcheps · 12/09/2013 20:30

Tell him to hold down the 1 key. My work blackberry gives me an option to listen to vm but if I cancel that ihave to find it manually -maybe that's the issue?

FrauMoose · 13/09/2013 18:53

Husband has now learned to access his voicemail. (He told me he'd had a Blackberry for 7 years.)

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