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AIBU?

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AIBU to just not trust him anymore?

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Emyloukids29 · 12/09/2013 14:16

Ok briefly I was with someone, he got a bit controlling and we had argument after argument. Then few months ago we split up. He was still talking to me but as far as I am aware he was living the typical single life.

He asked me to get back together a few weeks a go, thing is, I said yes but I am struggling with my gut. I do love him an at the time the break was for the best because we were arguing an wasn't good for either of us or my dc.

However he doesn't nor did he live with me then , but things seem different to me. He still seems to be making plans like he would if he were single. Going out a lot more on his own, sometimes he says he has no money yet he manages to go out.

I don't want to seem like a nag, and I do believe he loves me but really AIBU to think that he wants to have his cake an eat it. I basically feel like he tells me so much of the truth but not the whole truth, only about money and when he goes out. About times ect...

I no this will be the break up of us, I don't no if it me just being paranoid because of what happened before we split up or I have a right to tell him how I feel.

He thinks whenever I open my mouth that I am picking at him. But I just want to tell him, and because of certain things it makes it hard to trust. Maybe you lovely people can tell me to either put up or shut up. Just need opinions please ...however brutal

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Emyloukids29 · 12/09/2013 14:24

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MrsGarlic · 12/09/2013 14:56

Sounds to me like there's no relationship there. I don't think it's a matter of being reasonable or unreasonable. Do you love him? Do you even like him? Do you not think you should be in a relationship that at least makes you happy? Because you don't sound happy with him, at all.

Personally, I'd leave him, and find someone who WANTS to spend time with you and your children.

Emyloukids29 · 13/09/2013 13:35

Thank you MrsGarlic , I think I need to do a lot of thinking an really decide what I want

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BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 13/09/2013 13:46

I think you need to realise this relationship is never going to work, kick him to the curb and move on.

hellsbellsmelons · 13/09/2013 14:31

I agree with the others.
What does he bring to the relationship?
How does make you feel special and loved?
Probably not at all.
Time to move on and find someone who wants to be with you and DC.

MikeOxard · 13/09/2013 14:52

That sounds shit. And it's only just started. Cut your losses and make way for a relationship you actually enjoy being in, he sounds like a lot of arseache for nothing.

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