to expect dp to know where ds's clothes go after 8 months?

[froken]

We have a very simple clothing storage system for ds's clothes, it's a 3 draws, top draw is vests and t shirts, middle draw is baby grows and trousers, bottom draw is jumpers.

Me and ds have been away for a week ( attended a close relatives funeral not exactly a jolly) I came home last night and dp has just left ds's clothes piled up next to the drying rack because he doesn't know what to do with them.

Dp does take clothes out of the draws to dress ds and I'm very un-anal about things I would have been pleased if dp had made an effort and tried to put ds's clothes away even if they were in the wrong draws.

I know it is a small thing but it symbolises how dp sees our division of responsibilities. Aibu to think he should be able to put away some bloody vests and babygrows.

Yanbu tell him he's being ridiculous.

Still waiting for DH to do DS's properly :( DS is nearly 4. It's not hard, t shirts in front, jumpers at the back and trousers down the side :(

At the weekend I had to show my DH (again) where all of DSs clothes live. DS is also 8 - but years not months ...

Another one here with 8 years and not a clue where anything goes, or which dd anything belongs to.....I have given up and do it myself. He can just about manage to put his own clothes away....

Could he not pull the drawERs open and have a look to see what goes where? His fuckwittery just sounds like laziness to me.

I have now banned my husband from 'helping' put clothes away as things go in the wrong place and mornings become veerrrryy stressful.

He can do the dishwasher instead. And make me a cooked breakfast every morning. And loads of other things. He is brilliant but the proper location of clothes escapes him.

He doesn't know what to do with them

Simple. Tell him. Do not do it for him.

Next time he will know what to do with them.

It's been 7.5 years & 2 kids here. They have their own rooms with their own dressers and their clothes have always been in the same place, but is still hugely confused by it all. He does absolutely fine when I'm out of town though, so I've just said that it is both our jobs to deal with clothes and he does it his way and I do it my way. Works fine as long as you are not picky!!

Normally I am enormously sceptical of 'learned helplessness' of this kind ... But I have myself sorted it drawers LOADS of times, only to totally forget what goes where.
Labels are your friend. You can put them inside the drawers if you don't like the look of them. I am slightly obsessed with labelling everything now. It's brilliant.
And then he has no excuses whatsoever.

My children are 5 ad nearly 2, dh knows which pieces of furniture their clothes goes in, but hasn' t quite worked out the fairly simple system of tops at the top ( shelves or drawers) and bottoms at the bottom. Goodness knows what will happen when they are both in school uniform.