To be annoyed with the childminder

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I've started college this September. I had a lot of problems finding a childminder for my little girl as a lot of people I called didn't even pick up the phone.

I finally got hold of someone and she agreed to see me when she got back from honeymoon and said she would call me to arrange a visit. She was supposed to have called me on Monday but she didn't, I gave her leeway as I knew she had just got married and called her this evening. She answered the phone and when I told her who I was and what I needed she told me that she was quitting childminding and had lost my number

AIBU to think that she should have told me during the first phone call when she said she could mind my child that she was considering quitting?

It sounds like she perhaps decided whilst she was away. A little annoying perhaps but surely you had a plan b given that she hadn't called?

YABU
maybe she didn't know then?

I couldn't get hold of anyone else and had had a lot of trouble getting hold of a timetable from the college so by the time I'd been able to get one (a week before college started) most places were full

I know IABU, just very frustrated now and feel like I was left in the lurch.

Have managed to find someone else tonight thankfully!

how old's your dc? Have you tried childcare.co.uk- you can put your requirements down and cylinders looking for new mindees can pm you to let you know they are interested - and you can view theirs and other childminder profiles.

the council also has a list of all childcare I found ds' preschool that way.

Thanks Maddening she's almost eighteen months old. I've been using the ofsted website but maddeningly enough about half the numbers just don't work

I got my cm through an approved list from the local children & families service of my council. Ring your council and see if they have s similar list.

Maybe she wasn't planning on quitting when she first spoke to you, and then I expect that she was so far from thinking that she was committed to you that it doesn't cross her mind that you'd be annoyed.

She probably decided on her honeymoon she was going to stop childminding.

I would have to say yabu for the simple fact you had no back up and were relying on something which was no way set in stone.

If I were you I would be annoyed at Myself for not making proper arrangements.

i wpould not be to happy with her either. would not have hurt er just to let you know.

This is why I go for a good nursery everytime less chance of being let down

I think it is annoying for you ... Glad you have found someone now