DH

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I have just nearly bust something internal out of sheer annoyance and anger.

Family due to go on holiday. DD needs waterproof clothes. I find some to order and DH says he will get them as he's off work. Great!

Arrive today with three days to go. Massive pressure for me at work. They don't fit. Wrong size. I ask DH what size he got and he starts saying that he got them in x size because I didnt tell him what size to get. I don't think I am the size oracle and he has the time to find out. He says that I didnt tell him when he rang to ask because I was busy. I am under massive stress at work just to make sure I can get all my stuff done before we go on holiday.

I confess I lost it at this point. Am I being unreasonable? Really, I feel a man with time should be able to do this better than a woman with work and toddler hanging off her leg.

I'd give him points for getting them at all.
(Having just arranged 100% of a holiday - even DH admits he has done nothing to help, due to pressure of work)

No points from me for doing something any parent should be able to manage -sounds like he's barely given a thought to what he's doing and thinks that if he fucks it up enough you'll take over. Surely he could have called to ask if he was that confused?

Really, I feel a man with time should be able to do this better than a woman with work and toddler hanging off her leg.

Well, yes, as a woman you'd feel that.

Most men who don't really give a shit would probably be lost.
Because it's so difficult to check clothes size in the child wardrobes, or take the child to try clothes, or test at home and then exchange said clothes.

well it's lucky he has time to (a) return those clothes for refund and (b) take child to Milletts and buy something that fits, isn't it?

and on his way home he needs to buy chocolate. Not for himself.

YANBU it is pathetic that some men cannot do basic family life tasks. Sounds like he couldn't be bothered to do it properly so just did whatever and you'll sort it out after.

[Wine] mine is similar, said he couldn't put the kids washing away as he didn't know what went where and couldn't tell the difference between newborn and toddlers clothing. Sharp words re being a parent not anemployerand he does it now

I don't really understand his logic. What did he do, take a wild guess? Throw darts to decide? Close his eyes, point, and go "That one"?

Or did he check against some other clothes and for whatever reason the sizes aren't matching up?

YANBU.

what a shit poor excuse for a man and a dad!

he had to get your daughter waterproof clothing and he couldn't even work out what size he should get?! like, maybe the size that she is?!
maybe the sizes don't come in ages, which is okay, so you showed him what to get, then there must be contact details ? "hello company, my DD is aged xx, what size should I order?"

fucking hell.
if that had been my DH, I would have told him to grow the fuck up.
and
"He says that I didnt tell him when he rang to ask because I was busy"
really?!!!! no fucking shit Sherlock! so, you're NOT busy, you fucking figure out what size the child wears and buy them! don't ask me, who is BUSY to do all your fucking thinking for you.

Yanbu- presumably it's his child too, 50% of responsibility is his. he should be embarrassed that he doesn't know his own child well enough to buy them clothes ffs

Poor ickle DH.. His skills of observation and planning are clearly limited. It's such a shame. You had better return that shiny car to the shop in case he hurts himself.

YANBveryU to be hacked off with DH, but YABabitU for not recognising that it is salvageable.

Return the clothes within the required period for a full refund (even though you probably won't see the money in your account till you come back), and hie thee unto the town centre where like as not there will be a camping shop (I was going to suggest Millet's but they went bust didn't they?) which will have what you require.

Three days is plenty of time to put things right.

Suggest you equip DH with the correct fitting requirements, the relevant page from your Thomson's Local Directory, boot him out to go find the clobber, and relax while he's gone.

Yes its the perception that I have the time to do the thinking that really, really grates. He often does stuff like this and then its seems to be me, the awkward squad, who has to point out that this isn't really doing the task, but just being lazy about it. By which point, I can of course do it. Why cant I assume he cam just do something without my help?

His mistake, his problem to fix,

If you keep fixing his mistakes he will keep making them.

Suggest he orders some with next day delivery and tell him to make sure he gets the right size this time.