To be upset for DS

[impatienttobemummy]

DS is 23 months. Picked him up from nursery to be told he'd had an off day. From one look I could clearly see he wasn't well start of a cold. One of the nursery staff said he hadn't been himself all day not really laughing or wanting to join in.
Then she told me that at lunch and dinner time he refused to say thank you and instead cried his eyes out when they asked him to. So a colleague of the nursery nurse I was speaking to refused to let DS have dessert by taking it away from him replacing it with fruit which he didn't eat as was upset.
AIBU to think he's 1 a bit young for this dicipline and I'd have made allowances considering he was feeling poorly.
We have had some issues with tantrums at home which I've told nursery about. The colleague apparently said tell mum we have seen 'the real DS today'?!
I'm worried about him being there now!
Btw I'm pregnant so bit hormonal so am looking for rational advice! Thanks

[PrincessFlirtyPants]

Good news, hope your DS is feeling better

[pigletmania]

That's fantastic impatient

[Lilacroses]

Sorry to hear this OP, yanbu at all. I would've been very upset to hear that if it had been my Dd. 23 months!!!! He is a little toddler! Definitely say something to them.

[Lilacroses]

Sorry, just read your update....good for you! So glad it's being sorted and the manager reacted appropriately.

[neunundneunzigluftballons]

'The real DS' would really bother me. In fact the whole situation would YANBU.

[neunundneunzigluftballons]

Oops I missed to update glad to hear that.

[LegoDragon]

Nice to see a happy update- hope the staff member is dealt with well and your DS has a fun time at nursery in the future!

[MrsDibble]

YANBU. At all. They really shouldn't be behaving like that towards such a young child.

[hardboiledpossum]

Withholding any food, including pudding, is against ousted guidelines. I would be furious even if your ds wasn't ill. At this age you model good language, you don't punish.

[hettienne]

Awful behaviour from the staff. Good manners should be modelled and encouraged, not enforced by punishment.

I don't think punishments have a place in nursery, especially for under 3s. Totally unnecessary and counterproductive.