AIBU to think you ask for your own sponsorship

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DAunt just sent me an email asking me to sponsor DCousin - DCousin is in her 20s. AIBU to think if you want to be sponsored the least you can do is ask yourself? I'd expect this of a 10 yr old let alone an adult. Online sponsorship lets people be lazy enough but not even bothering to send your own emails?
And also I'm somewhat reluctant to sponsor her jaunt to the 3rd world anyway as I can't help thinking the enormous amount of good that could be done out there for the cost of her air fare. Am I being a curmudgeon? Are there benefits to this kind of trip I'm not realising?
First venture into AIBU, please be gentle!

It wouldn't bother me that much that the person didn't ask themselves. But I do see your point. And agree I wouldn't be that keen to sponsor jaunts round the world in the guise of 'doing good'. But I wouldn't argue the point and probably sign up for around £5 or maybe £10 if I was feeling exceedingly generous. And then forget about it. And let them mutter all they like.

I hate asking for sponsorship so would always allow others to circulate my cause as I do for my friends in the same situation. It seems somehow less intrusive to share someone else's than request it yourself.

That said, I don't sponsor do gooding jaunts around the world either, as generally they're for the benefit of the jaunter rather than the community being jaunted to, as it were.

I thought the fact you go through the unpleasant task of asking me for money was the cost of expecting me to give money to charity via you rather than via my own favourite charities. I'll generally sponsor people more if they go to the trouble of coming and asking me in person rather than just sending a round robin email. I have sponsored people if friends asked but that's more e.g. when friend had been telling us about her niece with cancer and we wanted to support them but didn't actually know them.

Perhaps I just want some payback from the excruciating task of going round the neighbours with my sponsorship form as a little girl! Which is prob BU to be fair.
I'm sure they won't mutter whatever I do, they aren't like that.
Thank you for your thoughts and for being nice

That seems a reasonable logic - the idea of asking being a penance. I approach with perspective that if I come and directly ask you for your support, individually, it puts you under pressure to say yes and stump up the cash, or to say "no I can't afford it / don't want to / don't know you well enough to care". I hate the thought of putting someone in that position which is invariably awkward for both of us. If I send a mass email / fb post, you can choose to ignore it, or not at your lesuire. A friend / family member asking is an extension of that - never putting others in what might become an awkward position.

But I think your interpretation is also fair, so I'm not saying I'm right and you're wrong

It's fair for someone to ask on your behalf when they're asking people you don't know/have contact with, with no major expectation of a result. For example, a school mum was getting sponsorship for her DH (whom we never saw because of working patterns) to do a 100 mile cycle ride for a worthy charity. She didn't expect anyone to do so, but she was delighted by those who did.

It was a way for her to support him in his worthy endeavour too.