to think that people who moan about facebook

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must either have added/accepted friends they don't like or expect their 'friends' to use it in exactly the same way that they do themselves or they don't know how to use the filter system (which is very basic).

In the time it takes to moan complain about facebook they could have changed their settings, so people who use it in a way that is not acceptable to them can be limited in their news feed.

It's not difficult is it?

Fairylea

That made me laugh

Fairylea @ "casseroles"

do grandparents know you have this impairment wesitiemama? I find it bffling someone would complain that a new mother is not uploading on FB enough, especially if they know she struggles with technical things!

Autocorrect is an utter casserole :)

Pleased to have made you smile.. haha!

I'm adopting casserole as a new insult to be used whenever swearing aloud is not advisable. Love it.
OP, you are not wrong (YANW?). Facebook isn't the problem, the people you have on it are.

Facebook moaner "I'm so irritated that my friend updates so often, it's so annoying"

This is me! But I only get annoyed about those who annoy me generally in life. They annoy me because they like to show off and facebook allows them to do this and I don't think they have anything to show off about. One girl on my fb uploads a million photos including ones of meals she cooks every day. I cook from scratch as well but don't have to tell the world about it. All I want to do is scream at her 'stop popping out children and boring the world about your boring life and get a damn job'. I don't delete her because I love to hate her.

After all this though I am going to delete her today as what's the point? I have seen the light

Cupcake
You are so right, we love to read shitty annoying posts and then moan. haha!

Good for you, come back and let us know when you have deleted her.

Soz, carnt chat now babez. Off for some vino wiv da gurlies b4 makin ma man somefink speshul.

You ok hun? xx

yes fanx hun x heart

I agree. I find people who moan on facebook are the worst. I mean who wants to see posts moaning / being sarcastic / passive aggressive about other people's posts? Just yawn.

The fact is, that some people like to take pictures of their food, and others may like to see them (although, I cannot think for a second why this might be the case, but it does seem to be true). Others like to upload pictures / updates about their children - again some people find it boring, but others don't. I actually like seeing the photos of my friends children, because I like my friends and have an interest in their / their children's lives. Other people go on and on about a particular subject / hobby etc. Whilst I might not be interested, other people (who share the interest / hobby) will be. Live and let live, I say. I simply hide the threads that I am not interested in, and keep those active that I am.

However, there is nothing interesting about someone moaning / complaining / making passive aggressive or so called 'witty updates' about people's facebook pages. I find facebook fascism completely tedious.

So I ignore and hide those types of posts .

And actually, the worst ones are those who slag off people who do X, on their Facebook page, whilst their friends actually do X. And they have joint friends, so basically they're humiliating their friend in front of all their joint friends under some veiled disguise of being 'funny'.

Actually, no you're just being a bitch.

I agree there is a lot of moaning and miserableness about FB on MN, more than ever heard in RL. And quite a lot of self righteousness from those who don't have it/got rid of it. Can't people just take it as a source of entertainment and information? If you only want to have close friends then do that. If people annoy you delete or hide them.
Personally I find the fact you can keep in contact with all kinds of people and see what sort of silly things they post quite interesting. Those who give to much information, those who seem to update on every single thought that enters their head, those who's updates are consistently mind numbingly dull, pictures of food, babies, selfies in the exact same pouty pose. Maybe they should add a 'dislike' or 'twat' button? Then we could all register our views. The stuff you think is stupid is as much a part of the entertainment as the things you are interested in.

YABU sort of.
I love Facebook. Find it best way to keep uptp date with many people I know and like. I did have a real moan myself this week though as so many of my lovely, well intentioned friends 'shared' that damn photo and I got sick of seeing it.

YANBU.

I have recently deleted my Facebook after one too many ridiculous, dramatic instances. I had a life before Facebook, and I have one after it. I talk to the people I want to talk to, and we have things to talk about because we don't have a photographic play-by-play of each other's daily lives.

I do fear that there will be a generation of people who stick their thumbs up and say "Like."

I deleted someone for this very reason the other day. It was DD3's first day in nursery, I was so proud, I took hundreds of pictures but I chose the best two and put them on FB. Then a friend from school put on how she was sick to death of people's sickly pictures of their children clogging up her newsfeed! She has no children of her own by choice, she is married but her job takes her all over the world. We are in our thirties so most of us has children. I wouldn't mind so much but she's always putting pics up of her nephews (who are very cute).

Well done Crazycake.

Have you seen FailBook?

It's user-contributed so some are better than others.

I find it funny how often the people who moan the loudest about Facebook have never actually used it. I have a couple of friends who are adamant that they won't sign up because they will be forced to be look at a thousand dull selfies of boring narcissists they aren't even friend's with.

I've given up trying to explain that fb is what you make it, and your feed is as boring or exciting as the people or pages on your friends list, no-one forces you to be friends with anyone.

My theory is that the people who are staunchly anti-Facebook are often not all that happy with their lives and so are wary of jumping into a forum that's all about sharing life' minutiae with everyone. Before you jump down my throat, I say this because this is exactly how I was a few years back. I was pretty unhappy with where my life was, really didn't want to share any aspect of it with a wider circle of friends who I perceived to all be fabulously, contentedly successful. As much as I was pleased for them, I didn't particularly want to be reminded how awesome everyone's lives were while I struggled with so many aspects of my own. And of course at the time my idea of fb was a bit more overblown compared to the reality.

But eventually the wheel of fortune turned, I got happy with life again, and a long distance move cropped up. Hmm, I thought to myself, what's an easy, all-in-one-stop-shop place that I can keep in touch with old buddies, and also reform links with some old acquaintances (part of the move included time in an old haunt). Facebook seemed to tick all the boxes, so I though I'd put my prejudices aside and try it, even if just for a few months. I've had my account for about 3 or 4 years now and I'm a total convert! I love it. Sure, it can be a bit of a minefield sometimes (friending extended family has been both wonderful and also awful at times! I have loved seeing pictures and videos of cousins children who I have been unable to meet due to distance, have been dismayed by some horrible, ignorant racism from other rellies.).

Unsubscribe is your friend! Especially when it comes to MIL, her feed is CONSTANT drivel, dozens of daily posts of 'like if you hate cancer/love your kids' and inane updates of eating lunch and going grocery shopping.

Anyways, apologies for the essay, I've just often thought about this when seeing ranty anti-fb-ers spouting the same old repetitive paranoid, ill informed boringness under any article or thread about Facebook. Also, my two most anti-fb'er mates are also dealing with lives that are understandably preferably kept private. I know, control group of three, super scientific theory huh?

Argh, Trills, I clicked that link and it opened up loads of porn images?!! At first it went to the correct page but then it switched and the images kept popping up?! My poor eyes!!

Just clicked again and it worked...no idea where the porn popped up from!

That's weird, it didn't open any extra windows for me, and cheezburger is a fairly reputable site (full of silly rubbish mainly, but not porn).

If I were you I'd look at the settings on your browser and check if you have any add-ons that you didn't realise you had.

I do actually envy those people who have never used facebook. I am hoping in time that I will just get bored of it, or that it will become deeply unfashionable or something. Like Myspace.

What I can't stand is those people who are clearly on it all hours because they know exactly what other people are posting, yet they never post anything themselves, particularly when they are sneery about other facebook users.

DuelingFanjo

True. I recently changed my settings so all those that lurk and moan but don't interact don't get anything of mine on their newsfeed.

YANBU

But here's my dilemma -- actually does anyone else have this problem?

I have a friend who I quite like in real life, but who I really dislike on FB. What I mean is that in real life she's funny and clever and only a little crazy, but on FB she's like this totally bonkers person, posting constantly and always all the viral stuff and pseudoscience, and coming off very smug.

I don't have this problem with any other friends, I have a few family members who are kind of annoying but they are annoying in real life too (I hide them).

I don't want to hide her because she is a bit fragile and I want to keep an eye on her.

I just don't get how she can be two completely different people.