to get annoyed when people say i'm lucky for losing weight

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In the last 4 years due to a hip injury then pregnancy then 6 months of healing for a horrific birth I went up to almost a size 18 and at 5ft 2 I looked huge since then I've worked my arse of at weight watchers, walking everywhere zumba and yoga once a week for a year to get to a size 12 so it's not luck it's self control and sweating my butt of thats got me here.

A good few of my 'mummy friends' comment how lucky I am to be a 'skinny minnie' (yuck) and they wish they were skinny and it really infuriates me mostly because when I point out that it's actually hard work and anyone can do it if they choose they say that couldn't be bothered to work out and like eating to much. I just feel like screaming if you want to be skinny get off your arse and do something don't sit moaning about it.

I know I sound like i'm boasting I'm really not It just really bugs me that my sweat and tears which there have been plenty of both are been brushed off as good luck AIBU?

you are lucky, lots of people work hard without a lot of success, and lots more aren't able to work hard. It isn't true that everyone can do it at all.
Of course you're lucky. It's only weight loss as well, its not the nobel peace prize. You're overthinking it.

YANBU.

I lost 5 stone last year and went from a size 18/20 to a size 10/12. I am sick to the back teeth of the "Oh you are so lucky to be able to lose weight, I wish I could" type comments. Apart from a few genuine medical conditions there is no reason why they couldn't lose the weight too if they actually tried instead of just moaning. It was a long hard year of watching really carefully what I ate and getting up at 6am to exercise before work that shifted the weight, not luck.

Well done on your weight loss.

Yanbu.

I hate it when people assume losing weight is the same for everyone - it is easier for some than others (eg me with PCOS - they aasume it's laziness and greed - I put on 5 stone with pregnancy and have 2.5 to lose still 2.5yrs on - and then only at pre-preg weight - still another 2 to go after that.

Well done on your weight loss - it is hard but it isn't true that everyone can do it :(

Congratulations though :) !

Well done for sticking to your plan & losing the weight; that must have been really tough.

I agree in a way OP, people tell me how lucky I am to be slim not knowing it took 18 months of hard work to lose weight.

Maybe I am lucky to be able to stick at it and keep the weight off but it sure as hell don't come for free. I will feel deprived for the rest of my life but its a choice I've made!

Ps for me hormones (due to pcos) are a nightmare - I put on 3 stone in a year once when I went on the pill - no amount of gym and diet helped much - I think metabolism is affected to the point that it is only v drastic dieting and exercise would touch it and putting weight on happens so fast.

Unfortunately without me going in to an embarrassing conversation about my pcos which I don't want to do really in general conversation means that it is just assumed that I have trouble losing weight due to laziness and greed.

YANBU. This drives me crazy.

People think it is somehow acceptable to dismiss your effort, work, determination and willpower struggles then just reduce it to luck because its related to weight. And then to make it worse, you are expected to react as if you've just received a compliment!

Everything in life is part luck.

Mostly luck. Sure theres some effort and determination, but you're very lucky that you don't have health problems that mean you can't do those things. You're lucky that you have the time and money to join groups and do fitness things. You're lucky that you have more than enough to eat.

Seriously, well done, its not the easiest thing in the world. Respect to you. But its just people making conversation, and nobody actually cares that much. Can't you just be happy that you are in better shape, you don't need a medal from everyone.

Well. I rented a villa in Corfu for a fortnight in August, and there were a couple of occasions beforehand when someone asked what we were doing over the hols, I told them, and they said, "Ooh nice, lucky you!" Ought I to have been offended, because, after all, I worked for the salary that paid for that "lucky" villa?

You are right not everyone can what I really meant was the people that comment could if they tried they will admit that they just can't be bothered to try. Due to my injury I had 60% muscle wastage and after a year of working out it is still painful to do it but I still do it because it's the only way to stay healthy and get better it's not been easy at all.

YANBU I hate this and having recently lost a reasonable amount of weight (and still losing) through WW and exercise I keep on being told I am 'lucky'. I did it through hard work and will-power not luck or by chance!!

YANBU. I lost 4 stone in the last 11 months, not because I'm lucky but because this time around (after loads of attempts, as I've always had issues with weight and just got bigger and bigger over the years up to size 22 at my heaviest), I am actually committed to loosing weight and am working harder at it. I fully appreciate everyone is different but most people can loose weight, obviously unless there are medical issues involved / people on medication etc, it's a question of motivating yourself and finding the way that would work for you personally (low carb for me). Well done OP!

Personally, I'd rather be fat and gracious than thin and chippy.