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Would you report - yes or no?

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fluffyraggies · 06/09/2013 11:13

Quick poll:

A person you know, not family, is growing, using and selling weed (in high enough quantities to turn a tidy profit) year round.

Would you report them to the police?

OP posts:
superlambanana · 06/09/2013 14:06

Yes I would definitely report it.

BuskersCat · 06/09/2013 14:06

I would tell my child to not sell drugs, I would also help them out of the situation. I would not be calling the police on them at all.

When DD becomes a teenager I would be happier with her coming home stoned than pissed (I'd prefer neither but weed over booze all the time)

usualsuspect · 06/09/2013 14:06

I've seen far more people die from alcohol related illnesses.

ilovexmastime · 06/09/2013 14:09

In answer to Snooping...

If my kids got involved to the point that they got prison sentences for dealing then I would be horrified that they'd been so stupid.

No, I wouldn't want that for them anymore than I'd want them to grow up an alcoholic. But I also recognise a middle ground, where people drink sociably and where people also smoke sociably.

I wouldn't intervene if I saw kids necking cider either. In both instances it's not because I feel that there's nothing to be done, rather that I believe people should be free to make their own choices.

WafflyVersatile · 06/09/2013 14:10

NotYoMomma

I hope you are campaigning for making alcohol illegal, or don't you caaare? Sad

Disagreeing with the illegality of cannibas isn't the same as not caring.

ilovexmastime · 06/09/2013 14:10

me too BuskersCat!

Snoopingforsoup · 06/09/2013 14:14

IloveXmas fair enough.

I can't help thinking that kids don't really know what they're doing when they get involved in drugs before leaving school. It's frequently a dark world before they've even experienced true adult freedom.

Sad. Just depressingly sad.

hardboiledpossum · 06/09/2013 14:17

I wouldn't. I'm not sure why not. I think that i think most drugs should be legalized and controlled. But i don't agree with drug dealers and i would hope that other people would report them. I am a bit confused about how i feel about this one.

I smoked weed and took e and coke in my teenage years but it really messed me up. I hope that my children never touch drugs.

NotYoMomma · 06/09/2013 14:21

I would actually support tge legalisation of it actually but as it stands it is breaking the law, and people dont care about that.

I view that as a slippery slope.

I also would hope once it was legal peopke would talk more openly about it like tobacco

except rather than 'tobacco causes cancer, it stinks and is horrible' it would be 'weed can make you mentally ill, cause paranoia, wastes money, stinks and is horrible'

and hopefully legalisation would actually make use of it decline as sadly there IS a culture of 'its alright Man, its only weed, its cool' about it all.

so that is my full view - but I HATE the idea that it does NO harm, and people wouldnt report it. it is illegal. THE UNDECLAIRED income is not my vandetta but it is also annoying

MrsOakenshield · 06/09/2013 14:26

unless you can prove they are selling it, then no. I know someone who got a 2-year prison sentence for intent to supply because he was growing a lot of weed at home - it was for his own consumption (he did share/give it to friends but never sold it).

If you are sure they are selling it, then yes, report them.

AintNobodyGotTimeFurThat · 06/09/2013 14:27

I would if I knew they had kids.
I wouldn't want anyone taking mind altering substances and being the responsible adult for a child.
Things could go wrong.
Otherwise, I'd probably leave it.
Unless I had suspicion they were selling to children or vulnerable adults in which case I'd also report.

GingerBlackAndOriental · 06/09/2013 14:28

I would tell my child to not sell drugs, I would also help them out of the situation. I would not be calling the police on them at all.

When DD becomes a teenager I would be happier with her coming home stoned than pissed (I'd prefer neither but weed over booze all the time)

This. ^^

NotYoMomma · 06/09/2013 14:28

how can you tell who is a vulnerable adult at a glance tHough?

if they are selling it to anyone it should be reported

GingerBlackAndOriental · 06/09/2013 14:29

I wouldn't report teenagers if I saw them drinking cider either.

BuskersCat · 06/09/2013 14:29

Never have a glass of wine in the evening Aint?

RoxyFox211 · 06/09/2013 14:31

No.

MrsDavidBowie · 06/09/2013 14:32

Definitely.

NotYoMomma · 06/09/2013 14:32

thats not currently illegal buskers

NotYoMomma · 06/09/2013 14:32

I dont anyway mind!

garlicbargain · 06/09/2013 14:35

NotYo and others, I don't blindly uphold the law and I do not consider myself wrong in this. I wouldn't have reported a gay couple before 1967, or a neighbour throwing out food during WW2. Would you?

AintNobodyGotTimeFurThat · 06/09/2013 14:36

Not I mean someone I know is a vulnerable adult. I naturally couldn't tell from a glance.

I just feel out of all the drugs weed is the least dangerous in the sense it can't kill you. However, I think it does create a bit of a state of 'blahness' as people seem to get really lazy when they take it.

HepsibarCrinkletoes · 06/09/2013 14:39

Nah. I'd take a bag too

BeenFluffy · 06/09/2013 14:39

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NotYoMomma · 06/09/2013 14:39

no of course I wouldnt but it is hardly comparable

  1. a gay cpupke in love diesnt affect anyone else and shpuld be no ones business

  2. growing weed in a residential area, causing (no doubt) a stink! and damaging communities.

yes lots of people smoke and are alright Jack and have a drug dealer who just sells to mates adults but there are plenty who dont. at the minute there is a line and I would report

Pantone363 · 06/09/2013 14:40

No.

I know people who grow and sell. The idea of dealers hanging around schools "pushing" to kids is ridiculous. It just doesn't happen, they have more than enough adult business to sustain them. That's not to say those adults don't then go on to deal in small amounts to teenagers, but the idea of someone pushing outside of schools belongs in a 1980s dangers of drugs booklet.