Because this is my step daughter I sometimes question my judgement on things so would value your opinions on how I should handle this or what (if anything) I should do.
DSD lives with us full time. As we have recently moved house, she has just started a new school.
At her old school, which is only 10miles away (so we have kept up with some of her old friends) there was a girl. Lets call her Jane.
Jane, whilst probably a lovely girl deep down, is definitely one of the ring leaders. She could often be spiteful (I once overheard her saying 'god, Megan looks absolutely DISGUSTING in that skirt!) they are 8!! we had a couple of the usual issues that girls have, a few tears at times and and the girls would flit from friends one minute to tears because Jane had upset her the next. She would sometimes come to play, no major incidents but to be honest there were other friends that I probably encouraged more because they were nicer
Now. Last night, at bedtime, DSD in tears. 'Will the children at this school be horrible to me like Jane was?' I just want to have a nice friend this time like Megan was.
She then told me that Jane used to pinch her and that all the notes home we used to get about 'falling over' were due to Jane pushing her.
Obviously we had a chat about how important it is to tell me these things at the time, and to ignore girls like Jane in future as there will possibly be more and that's why nice girls like Megan are the ones to stick with.
Now ordinarily I would just move on a we're now at different school, but Janes mum has just text 'hi, how are you, we should get the girls together soon'
Do I just send something on committal? Or would IBU to tell her what DSD has said so she can stop her little darling from doing it again to someone else?