To be cross about my husbands choices

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My 10 year DS has started to walk to school by himself.

This morning a boy called for him to walk to school at 8:05 and my husband sent him off.
I was cross with him because the school gates don't open until 8:30 and it takes 10 minutes to walk to school, leaving 15 minutes.

When I tried to explain that I didn't like this my husband didn't get it and thinks I am over reacting and I need to let go.

So AIBU to be cross he was let out the front door so early?

What exactly are you worried about? I don't quite see the problem?

Yes, YABU. He's 10, he should be able to be trusted for 15 mins loafing time.

I think youre over reacting, better they're early than late

Ps DrinkFromMyFountain - I read that thread and I live your nn

I agree OP. Far less chance of mischief/distraction/danger if its a direct walk! There's no need for him to loiter at school.

I think you are being unreasonable, your dh has just as much right to make this sort of choice as you do he deemed it to be safe to do so he trusts your ds enough to think its ok.

You have put nothing in your post that makes me think he's wrong or not an active parent or that your ds is likely to take up smoking crack in those 15 mins.

What do you think will happen?

Where's the harm. Pick your battles!

YABU. Your DH is just as much a parent as you and can make his own judgements.

Besides, have you actually seen just how slow 10 YO boys can walk when they are in pairs/groups? They would be lucky to get there on time!

'Take up smoking crack'

I think I'm just concerned that it clearly won't be a straight walk into school leaving too much time for mucking around. Plus it's a gap where I can be 100% sure where he is.
I clearly am being a bit PFB aren't I?

But (tiny, 15 minute chunks) chance of mischief/distraction/danger is what growing up is about. Cotton wool and all that.

I'm on the fence with this one. I have an 11 year old brother and I know last year he couldn't be trusted to stay out of trouble for 15 minutes but my mum wouldn't let him walk to school in his own because of this.

So what I'm saying is, if you trust your DS enough to walk to school, surely he is mature enough to be trusted to stand outside the school gates for 15 minutes?

I can understand why you'd be worried though.

Kids need small blocks of time in order to create minor amounts of mischief it tends to distract them from the massive mischief