Aibu to think my son's biting, scratching and pulling is an issue?

[Caff2]

He's only fourteen months old, but my older son (now 13) never really did this. DS2 seems to find it hilarious to pull hair really hard and has started to pinch and bite a bit too.

I this just a bay stage? DS1 never did it. So I don't know. Is DS 2 too young to worry about this?

Baby, not bay, sorry!

Some babies/toddlers go through it, and some don't. It is boundary testing, and understanding social rules. In their little minds/egos, the world revolves around them, they're entitled to anything and everything, and anyone who challenges that needs reminding quick smart!

You just need a few techniques to deal with it while he works through the stage - watch him like a hawk, zero tolerance, removing him from the situation, consistency, etc, etc.

Don't worry about it, it's very normal at this age. But do teach him to be gentle. I'd respond to pinching/pulling by taking his hand and showing him how to pat/stroke and saying "gently, gently", and maybe kisses for biting? May be what he's trying to do anyway. Very important at that age to say what you do want them to do not what you don't - it was very clear that DD if you said "no don't bite" would only hear or only understand "bite" and would take it as an instruction.

Thanks! I'll just keep an eye on it. He also shouts angrily if someone annoys him! Already! Again, my older son was more chilled out.

it's perfectly normal for some kids, does your older dc 'rough play' with him? a sibling that older can tolerate lots from the little one and if course not slap back as a younger sibling would if you see what I mean.

set rules, eg if he bites put him straight down and day no loudly. ignore. put him in his cot. whatever works.

you will all need to be in board with this.

Definitely NOT too young to tell him off!
Look, we all have our different ways of disciplining our kids.
I am pretty strict and would absolutely not tolerate this.

We have a naughty corner in our house. They get told once firmly, "no, we do not hit/pinch/bite, that is NOT good behaviour, if you do it again, you'll go in the naughty corner" and if it happens again, that's where they go.
A minute for each year of their life.

Then you go to them, get down to their level and say "I put you in the naughty corner because, blah blah, now what do you say?"

They apologise (if they refuse, they stay there until they're ready to) and then you cuddle!

This works for us. My 3 year old has been the most trying of my children, but consistency with discipline has really helped.

Some people will probably say he's too young, explain gently.

I say the earlier you start, the easier it is. Otherwise youve got a headstrong 3 year old terrorising kids at playgroup.
And trust me, that won't be good for your child either.

No one will want to be friends with a child who is being mean.

Obviously after the cuddling you explain that it's not nice to hit and why. That you have to be gentle etc.
This is all super nanny stuff

Actually, now you say it, my DS 1 is very tolerant and sometimes laughs when ds2 pulls his hair or does a cross face at him. He also laughed when ds 2 bit him the other day as it was kind of comical when he got cross, iykwim. I think boundary setting and explaining to ds1 that it's important not to unintentionally encourage him might be important.

AB, I meant literally, if you say "no don't bite", a 14 month old is fairly likely to only pick out and process the one word "bite". Not that you shouldn't tell them off if that's your thing, though it's not mine. DD demonstrated this to me when I was having a conversation with her brother about not biting his thumb - she heard "bite", she took it as an instruction and took a nibble of my arm! Talk to them about biting, they think about biting. Talk to them about touching gently, they forget about biting, result.
(But seriously, you would do all that spiel about why you were put in time out with a 14 month old? Do you have super-genius children, cos my 18 month old would be clueless, and I thought she was quite bright! DS didn't understand if-then clauses till well over 2. He'd definitely have processed "if you do that again then..." as an instruction to do that again.)
And oooh yes, if it gets an interesting reaction from big brother that explains a lot Caff2!

I thought supernanny only did time out from age 3??

No idea, but mine get it from younger (mean) I'm probably pretty strict, but my kids are well behaved as a rule, so it works for us.