To not want to go to this wedding?

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Sil is getting married at the weekend.

I hate weddings anyway, dislike getting dressed up and having to make dmalltalk with people I don't know or particularly like.

I've had a horrible day/week. Work has had a major reshuffle and I've been put into a job I hate. with the most unfriendly unhelpful people I've ever met. Everyone is unhappy yet its all going ahead regardless, and Yeh only logic behind it is that they are doing it to make redundancies easier. Got shouted at in front of everyone twice today for things that were not my fault but things other people had told me to do. I'd give anything to have my old job back but it's not going to happen and I'm miserable.

I'm knackered already from it all and ds has come home today after only two days back at school with a lost coat, lost water bottle and ripped brand new trousers.

May be ott but I sat and cried when I got home. All I want to do at the weekend is hire away, I get quite anxious when I'm stressed and it's going to mentally exhaust me.

I've got to go haven't I.

Yes you should go, imagine how you'd feel if DH didn't accompany you to your sibling's wedding. Try to put this crap week behind you, relax and enjoy the day!

Go, but I don't think you have to stay until the bitter end. I am sure no-one would complain if you went to day do and either bunked off the disco/evening do, or snuck off early. I hope you have a better week soon, poor
Old op . It never rains, it pours.

Yes I think it is time to move on jobwise, won't say where I work but not somewhere you'd expect to be shouted at and humiliated. I've been looking for jobs online but unfortunately there doesn't seem to be much that fits around school as well as mine does.

OP, I'm so pleased you're going. It'll mean so much to your dsil. There's no need to stay to the bitter end though. Leave as soon as it is easy to do so.

Oh a few x posts echoing 'bitter end'!

Well we're in a hotel at the reception venue but perhaps I'll be able to sneak off early with a tired ds.

I'm with sarascompact - no, you don't have to go. If you were horribly ill with say, flu, you wouldn't have to go. You are suffering from stress and it's your call how up to it, or not, you feel.

I really sympathise as I'm similar - I can enjoy a night out if I'm in the right mood and have lots of energy, but if I'm feeling drained and miserable, I need to look after myself.

One option if you do feel you have to go is go, but explain you have been feeling a bit under the weather and may not last the whole night. Make arrangements to duck out early and put in place what you need - taxi, bath, early night - to help you recover. Then you will have shown your face.

Sorry that you are having a tough time but have you considered how other people find you to be around? Have you thought that if you were a pleasure to be around then maybe you might have been snapped up at work to work with people that you like and like you? You sound like you are jaded by life and giving off negative vibes? Life is a gift, try to see positives, you are seemingly youngish, with a darling son, could you try to enjoy life more? There will be sad/challenging times in the future as you and those around you get older, enjoy the now? If you give off friendly and positive vibes the world will seem like a brighter place.

Enjoy the wedding, if you really can't then at least smile and try to make an effort for your Sil's sake and to set a good example to your son. Life really is short

Omg pigsmummy that's not helping much! You're making me depressed and I'm not the op!

Op has been horribly messed about at work and been uprooted from a job she loved and wishes she could have back. She doesn't sound like a miseryguts to me and IME it's far more likely to be a case of crappy management.

Op I feel I must now give you

Pigsmummy it's definitely not the vibes I've been giving. The whole directorate has had a major reshuffle. They have basically got rid of my old job leaving about 40 staff redundant. But then put lower grade staff in to do a very basic level of what we were doing. We have been slotted in elsewhere doing something entirely different. It isn't where my skills base is or what I enjoy. I have no real idea what my new team does and have had to scramble around for answers. I've had to put myself out there to introduce myself to people. Nobody seems to know what's going on and my new manager had no idea she was my manager until the day before. And basically sent me an email along the lines of 'I think I'm your new manager, don't know who you are but come and find me'. Nobody has been snapped up, they are making out the reshuffle is to improve and skills match but the opposite has happened and they have essentially made us redundant.

It might be very upsetting what's going on at work, but you are not the only one at work going through this? From what you say everyone is in the same boat. How about being grateful that you weren't one of the 40 made redundant?

And because you are going through the rough time surely your SIL doesn't have to suffer for it. That's really selfish of you, I'm sure she will be upset if you don't turn up.

Sorry that you are going through a hard time, but maybe you need to get out of this self pitying state and realize, you aren't the only one in the situation at work, you still have a job and you do need to be there for your family.

Yeesh, a lot of meanies on here today! OP has already said she's going; she clearly just needed to vent.

OP, sorry you're feeling so low; I know what it's like.

What happened to your son's clothes, by the way? I'd be asking the school about that!