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Family photos in the home.....

117 replies

deliakate · 05/09/2013 18:21

Are they tacky? I think my parents thought they were and consequently, we had none on display of anyone.

What do you do? Do you have lots of nuclear family/you and dh only, or are there lots of extended family too?

Maybe it's a class issue - I always see loads in upper class homes and in more working class households too.....

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GaryBuseysTeeth · 06/09/2013 04:42

*living room. Damn these sausage fingers of mine!!

FixItUpChappie · 06/09/2013 05:30

it's your home....it should reflect your tastes and preferences not what's in fashion to a MN majority.

I personally love filling our home with photos of our family, places we've been etc. Good conversation pieces too.

MrsMook · 06/09/2013 05:51

We have several collage frames around the house. Two in the lounge, one for each half of our families, some stretching back a few decades.

On the landing there's another of us and DS1. As we build up enough of DS2, we'll do another and update them.

When we got our fridge, we found it has a photo gallery screen! Quite like that. We also have a canvas enlargement of a wedding picture over our bed.

We've had various ILs send us copies of professional pictures, usually large and framed. Currently in the loft as there's no surface we can display large pictures on. Lots of our our ornamental nick nacks are up there until we get sorted with some child reistant furniture for display. Knee-height coffee tables are the way to a nervous breakdown these days.

I'm not a fan of sterile white backgrounds and staged falsey "natural" posing. I prefer a real spontaneous picture, or the honesty of a properly staged formal shot that was aways intended to be a bit starchy.

mathanxiety · 06/09/2013 06:30

I have a load of art done by the DCs at various stages of their lives plus photos of the DCs but none of me or exH. Also have a photo of the late cat, and photos of the grandparents and some extended family.

JollyHappyGiant · 06/09/2013 06:36

DS has a couple of photos in his room. In the hall we have a photo frame with a collage of the whole family - DH and I, our parents, GPs, brother, sisters and my sorely missed great granny. That's all, but we have some frames awaiting pics in the cupboard.

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FadedSapphire · 06/09/2013 06:51

We have a venture picture [which I now don't like] up on livingroom wall.
Only sterile looking thing in room full of clutter and crap!
Excuse? Pfb, redundancy money and hormones....[obscene cost considering how broke we are now]. Ds 2= few snap shots!!

Jinsei · 06/09/2013 07:30

Wow! Had never thought of this as a class indicator - just assumed it was down to individual preferences!

We have lots of framed photos on surfaces but none on walls. DH did once put up a massive framed picture of me and him, but I found it embarrassing and took it down - more because of the size than anything!

Thinking about it, my parents don't do photos on the wall either. Maybe that's why I'm not keen.

cory · 06/09/2013 07:44

As I sit by the computer, I am being outstared by my greatgreatgrandfather, a most staid and respectable Victorian gentleman, and dh's grandmother, in her working costume as a chorus girl (I thought she might liven him up a bit). FIL in a baby frock (yes, it's that long ago!) and MIL as a beautiful young woman adorn the hallway, my grandparents' wedding photograph is in the living room, together with a portrait of a toddler who we think may have been dh's greatgrandmother. All I can say is that if family photos are tacky, dh's and my family have been tacky for a long time.

GingerBlackAndOriental · 06/09/2013 08:05

I have some. Not loads. I do want to put a few on the walls but never seem to get round to doing it IYKWIM!

I have 5 on the larger fireplace in the front room, and 1 on the side table.

I have 3 of my DD when she was a few days old on the kitchen display cabinet along of one of myself when I was 16 posing on holiday.

Upstairs there are a few of DD in frames on the window sill in her nursery which she still hasn't slept in!

One of my self and DH in the spare room on the wardrobe top, and a tiny one of one of my cats on the window sill.

Our bedroom has one of my dearly departed cat on one of the side tables who I had from when I was 5. He died when I was 22. There are a few of DH when he was in the army on the window sill and on shelves in his walk in wardrobe. There is also a couple of us on the wardrobe top in there too.

I like photo's. I used to have loads stuck up with blu tack in my bedrooms everywhere I lived. Home/Uni/flats, It would be the first thing I did before unpacking. Once I'd put all my photo's up I was at home.

fatgirlslimited · 06/09/2013 08:29

We have loads of pictures around the house. I'm my living room I have a very big photo of me, my husband and our daughter the day we got married last year. Also we have our daughter's school photos (the individual ones) on the mantle. In the dining room there are lots more from the wedding with my in-laws and my brother in them. In the hallway near the kitchen there are the 2 class photos of my daughter's. Up in our bedroom are the professional pics I had done of me a few years ago(some leave little to the imagination).

I love photos and my mother in law always says she likes them but she doesn't have many pictures in her house except for 3 little frames ones in her bedroom, one of her 3 sons about 20 years ago, one of her wedding 27years ago. And one of her parents on my wedding.

comingalongnicely · 06/09/2013 08:29

Lots of pics of the kids at various stages of evolution - partly to embarrass them when their mates come down & partly to scare off burglars.

TBH I'd quite happily take most of them down & put something different up but DW likes them for some reason....

SuperConfused · 06/09/2013 17:09

We have lots in frames on bookshelves, same growing up. I think canvas prints and studio/professional style ones are tacky (except school pics) but actual family photos are lovely and homely. Apparently it has a really positive psychological effect being surrounded by photos of family, it reminds your subconscious you're loved. That's my excuse anyway Grin

ziggiestardust · 06/09/2013 17:17

I have photos of my son in the hall and in the front room. He is our only son and the light of our lives.

I like to look at his face before I go out the door, and first thing when I come in, to remind myself what it's all for when the daily grind gets a bit much.

AmazingBouncingFerret · 06/09/2013 17:17

I have photo's everywhere.

I have posed ones of the children when they were nursery age on the wall. I have one of DH and me on our wedding day, a lovely framed one of me with my mum and two sisters, a group one of my kids with their cousins. Nieces and nephews are dotted everywhere.

I also have ones of me and DH together when we were teenagers stuck on the kitchen cabinet doors. They never fail to make me smile and feel nostalgic. Grin

DS is taking after me. He has put a framed photo of the dog on his bedside table.

reelingintheyears · 06/09/2013 17:22

I love them too, I have loads in frames and on the wall.

Don't really give a shit if anyone doesn't like them like them.

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DuelingFanjo · 06/09/2013 17:29

We didn't have them but I suspect it was because we were poor.
My mum has some now but definitely not those ones with an oval surround that go on the wall with gormless children in their school uniforms.

I am not a fan of those canvas jobbies either.

reelingintheyears · 06/09/2013 17:31

We also have boxes and boxes of photo's, some in albums and some loose.
I have no idea what to do with them but it's great getting them out occasionally.
A few weeks ago we had a look at some old video of the kids when they were small, they loved it and so did we!
I think I need to get it put onto discs so it doesn't decay or summat.
I have really old cine film my Mum took when DB and I were growing up Grin

reelingintheyears · 06/09/2013 17:34

I also have all my Mum's old albums of her parents and their families, some date back to the late 19th century.
How could I ever get rid of them!

morethanpotatoprints · 06/09/2013 17:37

We have a few choice frames of dc as babies, my parents no longer with us, dh parents and new spouse/half siblings, dh gps at Buck palace getting MBE. Grin

They aren't in main rooms but corridors, hall, stairs or landings.

luxemburgerli · 06/09/2013 17:44

I have lots. Or would have if I hadn't just moved house.

Who gives a crap if it's deemed 'tacky'? To me, 'tacky' is either organising your home so that (you think) it suits other people's tastes, or judging what other people have in their homes.

DontCallMeBaby · 06/09/2013 17:44

I don't remember what we had in the house when I was a child - must've been some pics as we always bought school photos.

We don't have huge numbers of photos, most are in the living room, and all bar one of those features DD (the one that doesn't is me with both my grandmothers on my graduation day). Hang on - there's a wedding pic as well. Three school photos of her, one whole school pic (I love this, 420 kids, it's like real-life Where's Wally), couple from a session done when she was 9mo, nursery pic (cutest thing ever) and snaps. All on the bookcases.

There are two on the stairs of DD from the back, both aged 2 or 3, one watering a plant and one on the beach with my parents. DH thinks they're weird but I like that they're kind of anonymous.

Teeny tiny one on a shelf in the dining room, my dad and this brothers aged about 3, 6 and 9; it was the only thing I took from my grandmother's house after she died.

That's it - DH thinks we should have fewer when we come to sell the house, but I don't agree. Is it ever tacky? Well, photos don't look so nice when they're loads of stiff school photos with bad haircuts in cheap frames against generally tired decor, but that's not just the photos. And the in-laws do have a canvas-effect but framed BIG version of the everyone photo from our wedding that I find a little scary ... mostly I like them, especially in other people's houses, and even more especially when we know them via their youngest child only - love those pics of current teenagers as squidgy babies and toddlers!

AmberLeaf · 06/09/2013 17:47

I don't have enough at the moment. Too lazy//busy to get around to sorting them. Have 1 or two out, few others i frames that are still in boxes from my last move...several years ago!

When I was young, I had a cork board with lots of random snaps pinned to it, I was thinking only the other day that Id like to do one of those again and I don't care how naff or studenty it is, I like it.