To leave dh with detailed notes about baby when i go?

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I genuinely dont know if he would prefer it or feel offended by it so please share...

I m going away for the weekend tomorrow and leaving baby with my dh for 3 days. Although dh spends loads of time with ds, he still forgets when he has milk, lunch etc and has often tried to put ds down for a nap without his bottle and then wonders why he wont sleep

But i dont want to leave a detailed list as i want him to do things his own way this weekend so he can build up some confidence... But im so worried he's going to miss a bottle or forget to sterilise them etc.

What do you think?

How old is the baby?

I'm ashamed to say I had to write notes for DH (he had to take a day off work to look after our 22 mo twins when our childcare let us down and I couldn't get day off). It was the first time he had looked after them on his own for more than a couple of hours at a time. He also asked me to leave their clothes out and leave some lunch but I drew the line at that.

Ds is 8 and half months and a bit of a nightmare when it comes to feeding and milk. Ive receny moved from bf to bottles and he's quite particular. Im sure he'l be ok and if he's not, im sure dh will let me knowmaking me feel guilty about going

You could do.

Be prepared it may still be unread by your return.

I would actually leave a list.It would then only be offensive if you kept texting /calling saying have you done xyz?
But I know my DH wouldn't mind,despite having 3 DCs he is still isn't that familiar with the baby's routine.
However,if you decide not to,they'll still survive and you are presumably just at the end of the phone?

Its not that im undermining dh btw, he is quite a panicky person as standard and i was just worried that he would txt/call me every time ds cried. Hes quite an active/alert
Baby who struggles to sleep if he doesnt have a proper wind down routine but likemost if you have said...dh will find this out himself i suppose!!

I would but not a detailed one, just a little reminder one. When I ve left my ds I left a list. just with times of bottles, when he has solids and,naps/bedtime. Dh was fine with the list and I think found it helpful as he took it with him to his mums for the day. I wouldn't dictate anything else. He actually wanted me to write down exactly what ds eats and get it out of the freezer for him! I said he could sort that out himself.

Just ask "do you want me to write down his routine?"

i was just worried that he would txt/call me every time ds cried.

Does your phone not have an off switch?

When DD was a baby I had her nap and feed routine written down for anyone that needed it and on the kitchen pin board. DH and I both found it useful when she was transitioning from one stage to the next, and grandparents found it useful whenever they looked after her.

How has DH not found it out before?

I'd be massively insulted by the idea of being a given a list of how to look after my own child.

I have had six children, the youngest is nine, and my daughter always leaves a list/ schedule for me when I look after my grandson.
Other babysitters have ignored the list at their peril.