to want him spend money on family stuff

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My DH has something worth quite a lot of money that he wants to sell so that he can get some money for himself, while I go around the supermarket with a calculator working out how we can save pennies. AIBU to say to him I don't think he should spend it all on himself but on Christmas for example. He does not work (for no good reason) and helps at home with the housework etc ...a bit. So I pay for everything and do 90% of everything.

Yanbu. Have you had this discussion?

YANBU, why is he not working? You say for no good reason? Are you working? Is him not working a mutual decision? To be honest I think you have more to talk about than just this 'thing'

Erm... why are you with him?

Cocklodger?

Cocklodger?

A prime example I think.

I think the money is just the latest in a long line of selfish and uncaring behaviour from the sounds of things. He is clearly not interested in contributing to the family in any way - why are you with him?

Cocklodger alert!

This is crazy. Is he looking for a job?

If you had completely shared finances and things weren't too tight then I'd say selling something of his to buy something else would be ok... but not when things are like this.

Why doesn't he work?

As you pay for everything anyway why don't you kick him out? Once less mouth to feed

So while you are struggling to make ends meet, he is not working as a lifestyle choice, only does a bit of housework while you do the majority and has access to a sum of money he is not prepared to share with the family?

Sounds like a charmer

What does he want to sell? Ia he a sahd or just not working? Presume you are working?

If it was something like ps3 that my oh spent ages saving his own spending money (we both have a set amount eaxh month) then I wouldnt expect him to hans over the money. However it really depends on your financial situation. If you were broke and couldn't afford to buy xmas presents or pay bills then I would be looking to sell stuff out of the house

Oh for crying out loud, where on earth are all these people who are settling for this sort of shit?
I don't know a single person who would put up with it, yet time after time these tales get told on here.
Seriously, do you think so little of yourself and your children that you consider it acceptable to allow someone to treat you all so badly?

Is he a SAHD?

If you pool all monies and it was bought from joint money then it should be shared. If a gift to him then technically it is he money if sold no different than something you were bought would be