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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to think today is a funny day for a wedding

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CatThiefKeith · 05/09/2013 09:32

Particularly as it is a child free one, the local schools all go back today (although a couple started yesterday) and the service is at 10.30.....

Not much time for those with school age children to see them off, everyone's got to take a day off work etc etc.

Still, it's lovely and sunny, so from that pov it's a beautiful day for a wedding! I'd better get my hat on :)

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TakingTheStairs · 05/09/2013 09:37

YABU.
When wedding planning things like finding a date that suits your immediate family, a venue that you like but won't make you go broke etc are your priorities.
Worrying about the timing of the day for guests with children is not a major concern.

Ragwort · 05/09/2013 09:38

I should think a mid-week wedding is a great day for a 'child-free' wedding, but remember a wedding invitation is not a 'summons' - if it is not convenient you can always politely decline.

TakeItAsRed · 05/09/2013 09:42

I think budget probably took any thoughts of other peoples children totally out of the minds of the (presumably childless?) couple, who probably haven't thought about term dates since they last attended school.
Sadly, saving several thousands (literally) would probably have taken precedence in the difficult balancing act of organising the day - even if it had occurred to them.

Thursdays are proving more and more popular as an option, as it is possible to have the venue of your dreams for as much as 50% less than it would cost at the weekend, so this may have been the only Thursday left available at their chosen location. For young childless couples, in a similar social group, the day works really well as similarly placed guests will often turn it into a long weekend by also taking the Friday off.

Not an easy juggle, for you though.

Dobbiesmum · 05/09/2013 09:43

I think if you chooses a mid week time for a wedding you have to be more prepared to accept that people might not be able to make it, but it's lovely to unexpectedly see a newly married couple when you're doing the weekly shop!
I saw an old fashioned bus going through our village last Monday decked up with flowers and full of people in nice hats, the DC's around were all waving at them and people started clapping. 'twas lovely..

Pigsmummy · 05/09/2013 09:43

I know a couple having a civil ceremony today and think that it's a smashing day, ideal for child free as they are in school amd likely why they picked today, what a great way to spend your first child free day getting sloshed at a wedding! Can I come?

livinginwonderland · 05/09/2013 09:44

I think it's a good day, especially considering it's child-free. Plus mid-week is a LOT cheaper than weekends when it comes to wedding venues.

happystory · 05/09/2013 09:45

Maybe it's a special date for them? Maybe their dream honeymoon could only be found departing on a Friday......

duchessandscruffy · 05/09/2013 09:48

What if your child is not yet at school? Not quite so convenient.

I totally understand that mid week weddings can be a great option if you are struggling for a venue/date, but having been to a Wednesday wedding last year that was utterly devoid of any atmosphere because a lot of people were working the next day, mid week weddings just arent for me!

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CatThiefKeith · 05/09/2013 09:55

Dd is two, and is with dm for the day, so makes no difference to me, I was thinking more of parents whose children were starting school today I suppose (there are at least 3 to my knowledge)

I do live next to a school though, so maybe all the mascara streaks this morning has made me overthink it! :)

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fluffyraggies · 05/09/2013 10:08

I got married on a Tuesday. Last year. About half the price of the same deal on a Saturday and it meant we could fly out the next morning to our honeymoon.

It was a small do. Kids were invited and they had the day off school or nursery or whatever.

Mine was a morning wedding, (stately home, wedding + meal under one roof) with a buffet lunch and then a few drinks, cake and coffee followed by chuck out at 5ish. Everyone said it made a nice change. I appreciated the fact that it meant a day off work for 4 or 5 of the guests (rest were new mums, sahms, or retired folk).

Wonderful day and i wouldn't change a thing :)

mrsfuzzy · 05/09/2013 10:12

have a great day cat thief, have a drink for us won't you !

Crinkle77 · 05/09/2013 10:14

Surely they will have had plenty of notice to make arrangements. It is cheaper in the week and i am sure that the bride and groom are not concerned about children going back to school.

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