i think i might be bu but only because she has form

[wonderingsoul]

ds1 was supposed to be going to a friend for a birthday sleep over, her sons birthday. they are also best friends but dont get to see each other alot.

said friend invited them over in front of both kids so i had no chance of hiding it from them.

she has form for canccling last minute if somethign better comes up or if she wants to go out.

she had recently been giving a house, she accpeted today at 11, she was told she had 7 days to do the swop. i knew she was veiwing today and texted her about 9ish if we where still on for today. she said of course.

we where supposed to be at her for 4. 5 past 4 we are out the door and i get a phone call canclling it due to having to move in 7 days.

now i dot know if im pissed becasue i could see this coming and if it wasnt this it could have been anything. i also dont think iw ould have been so annoyed if she had told me when she found out at 11, instead of us out the door and having to deal with a very upset 7 year old who had been looking forward and counting down the hours till he went.

so i shall leave it with the aibu lot. am i?

No. Very rude behaviour and it's down to her not to behave like this, not you to alter your behaviour in case she does.

it was a bit unfair to say yes she'd go ahead with the arrangement then cance last minute, but it sounds as if she has got a fair bit going on in her life at present having to work to a time table, she probably feels a bit over whelmed with things and didn't want to let you down but then realised she couldn't keep the date, try not to be too hard on her, there will be other play dates and sleep overs, even if this was a let down on this occassion.

Yanbu. I would have ignored the call and rocked up at her door anyway. See her try and weasel out of that one in front of both kids. Her poor son, on his birthday and everything.

i feel most sorry for her son. Could you ask him to sleep over at yours instead? He is missing out on his birthday treat.

if it was me, id still go along with it.. there stuff i could be getting on with whilst they have fun, for me it wouldnt have bothered me espeically if it was my sons birthday.

but i also get that its a big thing and she is stressed which is why i feel like "is it a good excuse? "

sleep- i would have and he normally satys at mine if we do do a sleep over but iv been mantaling bunk beds..still not done and my flat is a bombsite, plus ds1 is at my nans now as she was going to drop us off and saw he was upset so offered this rare treat to actually sleep over theres.

(im err... hiding on here to work up the mojo to finish of clearing up the boxes and to do the washing up)