to think this mother was weird to boast that her 11 year old daughter has a boyfriend?

[Klingyston]

My daughter started secondary school today. While waiting to collect her (first day) I was talking to a mother I know from their primary school - her daughter has just started to. The mother was going on at some length about how her daughter has a boyfriend, speaks to him every day, saw him 9 times in the holidays, he gave her money on the last day of primary school etc etc. Tbh I really wouldn't try to encourage anything like this with an 11 year old - you really can't have a boyfriend at that age! And if my daughter was like that I certainly wouldn't let her speak to him everyday - it's ridiculous - they are 11 fgs!

I don't see the problem tbh. Seems to me she was saying it a little tongue in cheek, like "awwwwh remember what young love is like".

At that age it's not really a boyfriend though is it? It's a boy friend. Nowt wrong with that.

Well as long as it is just a boy friend , then I guess its okay.

I wouldn't like that even

I think it's a bit weird to boast about it, yes. Definitely wouldn't be boasting about 11 year olds handing around money as a token of affection Isn't that just them getting their young wires crossed about what constitutes treating someone nicely?

I'm not sure about not letting them speak every day though, surely it's no different from speaking to a best friend every day (or at least you hope it's not!)

They should be very watchful, a friends DD had a BF in year 7. in year 8 they had had sex, huge scandal and all the year found out, bullying ensued. We think it's cute but hormones are a raging.

my ds2 who is 4 has a girlfriend... no ones ever seen her though

are you sure it wasnt in a a aww thats cute kinda way?

Nope yanbu I would hate it abs the cash thing not a good precedent!

I think it's weird that he gave her money.

I'd make her give it back.

As for the rest,the mum just sounds a bit silly.

What's the difference between telling you about it, and boasting about it? How did you know it was boasting, maybe more a "my haven't they grown" chat

I think the money stuff is messed up. When I was in school - v nice middle class area - one of the girls had a boyfriend from the age of ten, at 13 she had his baby. People think oh cute, they're children, but at that point puberty is kicking in so I'd definitely be saying far too young.

Also, one thing buying her presents, which is still a bit off if unreciprocated, but isn't it a bit like payment when it's cash? All v odd.

at 13 she had his baby. People think oh cute,

How can that be cute?!

We as parents need to step up and not be afraid of talking about contraception and have the "sex talk" IMHO

I did, with DS at age of of 6, (big pedophile scandal hit the news) and gave him an age-appropriate book soon after.
(sex education at school too).

My son has a girlfriend. He's 4 months old. She's older than him at 7 months and is a bit bossy. I'm not sure it'll last

How can that be cute?!

I think she means they thought the relationship at 10 was cute
I hope so anyway!

But YANBU. Too many young girls having sex at 12/13. They should enjoy the stress-free single times, ahhh.