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Feeling sick since I read this headline

67 replies

blackpepper123 · 03/09/2013 12:11

I was on a bus this morning as had an interview and picked up the metro newspaper which had the most awful headline, I am not going to repeat it here but available on the metro news website if you want to look.

Ever since I read it, I feel really sick and depressed. I have a young daughter myself and cant get the stupid headline out of my head.

I didn't read the article, I couldn't bear to but the damage has been done

AIBU that they shouldn't put headlines like that in newspapers?

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HeySoulSister · 03/09/2013 13:01

Who is heartless?

Eilidhbelle · 03/09/2013 13:01

I knew it would be this, YANBU. It came up on the sky news app last night and I thought it was unnecessarily graphic.

LifeofPo · 03/09/2013 13:18

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Mintyy · 03/09/2013 13:21

Op, don't you think it is a bit self indulgent to post about this when presumably the girl and her family are the ones who are really suffering in all this? Your op is very much all about YOU do you not see?

KatyPutTheCuttleOn · 03/09/2013 13:24

Assuming it's about Michael Turner/La Vell, yes it's awful but news headlines are awful. The one on the Metro web site of all the bodies is terrible.
I wouldn't be critical of the OP though, all news headlines are potentially distressing depending on our own background, others we can just say 'how awful' and move on. We don't know what the OP has experienced to make her feel that way.

I remember being (unusually) reduced to tears by two things I saw within weeks of having my PFB - one was a picture on the front of a newspaper of the body of a baby girl in China, the body had been dumped in the gutter and the other was a road accident where the car was on the side and a pink teddy bear was in the road next to the car. Life does that to us, it's part of what makes us human not robotic beings with no emotion.

EldritchCleavage · 03/09/2013 13:30

I am not heartless, but as you said this thread is all about you and your reaction which I think is self indulgent

Oh, for heaven's sake. Hide the thread then. OP wants to explore her feelings about this, she's allowed to, what's the problem?

blackpepper123 · 03/09/2013 13:33

Good post KatyPutTheCuttleon. We cant help how we feel, some things do affect us more than others

LifeofPo- is it being self indulgent to say how I feel about something? That is what most of AIBU is about!!

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Onesleeptillwembley · 03/09/2013 13:45

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blackpepper123 · 03/09/2013 13:51

I can see why I was so reluctant to register on here now onsesleeptilwembley

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Repeatedlydoingthetwist · 03/09/2013 13:57

Another one who doesn't understand why they reveal things like this before a verdict? Could it jeopardise the chance of a fair trial? I know jurers aren't supposed to read about it/watch the news but in today's world it'll be everywhere.

Golferman · 03/09/2013 14:01

Salacious or dramatic headlines are there to hook the reader in (to buy or read the publication - this is no worse, IMO than those silly 'coffee Break' magazines that some people read) . I would rather these things were published than hidden away to be honest.

MrsDavidBowie · 03/09/2013 14:05

The jurors would hear it in court anyway.

I think Yabu......news is often hard to read especially when it's about children, but I'd rather have it out in the open and discussed than hidden away.

EldritchCleavage · 03/09/2013 14:09

The headline is taken from the prosecution's opening speech to the jury. It's the prosecution case that this is what Turner did.

comedycentral · 03/09/2013 14:18

Wow why the hostility towards the OP?
Its ok to feel the way you do, sometimes I fear we are becoming too immune to stuff like this, it doesn't shock us anymore.

Wembly you are being very cruel! How dare you speak to the OP like that. She can post whatever she bloody wants and some of us are happy to support her.

frostyfingers · 03/09/2013 14:22

Tad aggressive Wembley - you can get your point across without being quite so offensive surely?

Onesleeptillwembley · 03/09/2013 14:25

And other people can post whatever they want, instead of tip toeing around someone professing to be so upset about something thats happening to someone else they have to start posting about it. People like that make me gobsmacked at their sheer hypocrisy and self centred misery.

comedycentral · 03/09/2013 14:29

You need to get over yourself Wembly!

Onesleeptillwembley · 03/09/2013 14:32

Think it's the OP that needs to.

BoozyBear · 03/09/2013 14:42

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EldritchCleavage · 03/09/2013 14:43

Where is the hypocrisy?

MollyHooper · 03/09/2013 14:45

What's your beef wembley?

The OP has posted because she is upset, she has her own reasons for this.

Why should that annoy you?

Auntfini · 03/09/2013 14:46

I think the reference to the teddybear in the headline itself was very, very hard to stomach.
Awful case.

AntoinetteCosway · 03/09/2013 14:46

onesleep you are being cruel.

If it was similar to the Guardian's headline then I can imagine that it was awful. The one in the G brought tears to my eyes before I'd even read the article.

It's dreadful to read but life is full of dreadful things and we have to face them. I felt similarly about the pictures f the Chinese baby found in the drain-they stayed with me for weeks. I'm sorry you were upset OP.

Onesleeptillwembley · 03/09/2013 14:52

If it supposedly upsets you enough to make you feel sick and unable to mention it then why the hell would you be starting and posting on a thread about it. Hypocritical and voyeuristic to be using it in that way. If she'd come on and said isn't it shocking and upsetting, then yes, but to make it all about her is just nauseating.