I am very concerned that my ex is knowingly trying to manipulate my son. He has just spent 2 weeks with him over the holidays and the day he got back he started to "test out" ideas on me that clearly were an adults views, the language he was using was not that of a 6 yr old and I am unsure of how to tackle this without upsetting my son or making him feel its his fault for confiding in me by telling me these things.
Also when he was with his father he tried to exclude me from calling ( only 3 times in 2 weeks) he didnt re -assure me that they were back safely from holiday and when I did manage to speak to him i could hear his father making discouraging comments in the background. I always facilitate lengthy calls and my son is free to talk to his dad without any emotional blackmail from me. I then discovered that his dad has been suggesting that my sons birhday is held at his house even though we always choose a neutral venue so that myself and his father can attend I see this as a further attempt to try to exclude me.
Should I contact my solicitor? Im really worried that his father is going to try and turn my son against me even though we have a really close relationship. My ex is known for manipulating people and has already done this by buddying up to my father ( who I fell out with years ago) and trying to get my mother on-side against me too- although luckily she is very loyal and told him to take a running jump!.
My son tells me that he is frightened of his dad because he shouts at his partner and he worried to stick up for me incase he gets told off. This I feel is a terrible weight for a little child to have- Please any advice welcome. thanks