too expect my ex to support me

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okay, so after 7years hubby has left me. totally gutted but thats another thread. anyway, i am disabled so cant work, but do get some benefits. Am i being unreasonable to expect him to look after me financially for a while till i find my feet? Our daughter lives with his mother, but spends three days a week with me and i am struggling to cope money wise. I dont want to rely on him at all but dont feel i have a choice.

YABU.

because i am on morphine which knocks me about and i sleep a lot of the time wheredoall...i also suffer mental health problems. I am currently thinking of working from home.

again thnkyou for all the replies that have been helpful x

You say you don't want to rely on him long term, and I think given you are still young, there is a lot to be said for moving towards a world where you don't need him or anyone else to make it work. So I would say a package where you find a job you can combine with your medical situation, which might well mean working from home, and the right benefits and help with childcare could be very positive for you. I could see a deal where he helps you financially for the next year while that starts to work, but in the medium term you are independent of him.

Abolished? So I am 61, suffered a stroke and looking after an autistic son, I gave up my career to look after him while his father worked. Are you saying he shouldnt pay spousal support?

This is a ZOMBIE thread !

In the long run, no

But short term while you sort out what you are entitled to now its only you, yes.

Situation doesn't sound easy, hope it gets resolved soon

Bugger didn't read that before posting doh!

Who gets the child benefit? If mil, half of this should come your way as your dc spends half her time with you. You need to call hmrc to clarify and then contact a solicitor re assets