Please tell me if you agree or not. We are separated but getting along OK and agree on most things with regards to our daughter.
However, she is a typically lazy teenager. She also is a bit guilty of not trying or making any effort for anything and sort of expects stuff to land in her lap with no effort on her part. Does nothing at all and then kicks off if we don't give her the allowance we agreed to for generally doing what many would do for nothing . If it doesn't come easy she just gives up. Which I find really disappointing because I can see the crestfallen face when her mates get things that she doesn't get but doesn't acknowleldge that they probably work a lot harder at what they do. Swimming was a case in point. She was a good swimmer but put in no effort so was crushed when all the others got a medal and she didn't.
I digress. Her grandma is sadly quite a manipulative child like narcissistic type person. All through her life she has delighted in telling DD how much money she has put in her savings account for her since the day she was born. It has always annoyed me that she does this and I have given up asking her not to mention it to our daughter. DD has often been heard to say "that's alright I'll just use the money that grandma has put in my account for me to get it" when we say no to something we can't afford to give her.
Latest thing is that she is aware of some her friends older siblings being bought cars pretty soon after their 17th Birthdays. She's 16 in 4 weeks time. She was discussing with Grandma last week that she would like a moped for her birthday. Grandma said she wouldn't like her to have one as they are dangerous. Grandma then went on to say that if she doesn't have the moped (which we had already told she wasn't having anyway) she would buy her a car for her 17th birthday. "How much would you need?" says grandma "would about £4,000 cover it?". Of course my DD is over the moon and telling all her mates how her grandma is going to buy her a car for her birthday next year. Grandma has always done this. Tries to buy people's affection and attention. It's horrible and insideous. This is all done without prior discussion with her son (or me when we were together).
I am absolutely bloody livid. Would you be?