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to be pissed of with my baby's dad?

8 replies

Samantha95 · 01/09/2013 10:24

A bit of background, Im 29+3 weeks pregnant, I broke up with the father of my baby at 18 weeks due to his constant threats and emotional abuse. We live a hour and half away from each other. I have never said he cant be part of his child's life, not that I don't feel like saying it!

Since we have broken up he hasn't spoken to me in 11 weeks due to him not liking the fact that I expect him to at least meet me half way for access and he can't be alone with the baby. As he has threatened on more then one occasion to do a runner with the baby and he threatened to kill me, which was reported to the police. Because of this the police requested I change my mobile number and block any direct contact he has through facebook etc when his ex started joining in with the threats. But he can still contact me on the house phone, by letter and he knows where I live and how to get there.

He has only contributed £30 towards buying things for our baby and had the cheek to ask for it back and then reported me for "theft."

He is now going around telling everyone that the baby is dead to him, and that she isn't his. (Not that he knows the sex) As well as other horrible stuff hes saying about our baby.

Am I right to just be done with him and his crap?

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Ezio · 01/09/2013 10:44

I wouldnt want him near the baby after threatening to do a runner with her. He sounds completely unhinged.

TobyLerone · 01/09/2013 10:48

I'd change my number and move, if possible.

LookAtTheTwain · 01/09/2013 10:49

Oh christ, cut him off totally, and don't look back. Ever.

IJustNeedANap · 01/09/2013 10:49

I wouldn't let him near my child! Your well within your rights to not allow him contact. You need to protect your LO

squeakytoy · 01/09/2013 10:53

is there any reason at all why you would even want this idiot near your baby. the baby is never going to benefit from having him in their life so stop all contact and forget he exists

wishwehadgoneabroad · 01/09/2013 10:55

I would move. And quickly.

FrigginRexManningDay · 01/09/2013 10:55

I wouldn't normally advise cutting contact but in this case I would. Keep a record of all threats cause I'm going to predict he will apply for visitation at some stage just to control and head fuck you. With a history of abusive and controlling behaviour it will be supervised which he won't bother turning up to.

Tryharder · 01/09/2013 11:21

Why are even asking? He obviously doesn't give a rat's arse in any case. Just cease contact and don't inflict this toxic relationship on an innocent child, stuck in the middle of 2 warring parents.

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