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Original poster

further to my babysitting thread earlier...

22 replies

emeraldgirl1 · 31/08/2013 21:53

and having shown it to DH (who has seen the error of his ways :) though is now terrified of MN! ) I have a second WWYD babysitting question...

Prior to our proper holiday we are having a weekend at a naice hotel for my birthday in 2 weeks time. We have been there 4 or 5 times before and so know the manager quite well. We went when I was pg and she said if we went back with a baby they had two great babysitters they recommend to guests, both older mums themselves, one a mum of a staff member.

Would you leave a 6mo with one of these babysitters?

We would be downstairs having dinner about 15 seconds away.

Am I being ludicrously PFB to be a bit dubious about it now it's actually coming up??!

I should add that we don't always gad about the place having holidays and weekends away - we've been storing these up for the past 14 months!!! Probably should have done more of it BEFORE arrival of DD come to think of it...

OP posts:
froken · 31/08/2013 22:28

I wouldn't do it but I'm very pfb ( don't even leave 8 month old ds with my mum Blush )

Can't you just take your baby with you to dinner and thebaby can sleep in a pram?

Tinlegs · 31/08/2013 22:30

Yes, absolutely.

AFishWithoutABicycle · 31/08/2013 22:30

I wouldn't but I'm ridiculous. If your happy to do it.

inthisdayandage · 31/08/2013 22:34

I would ....you are only downstairs.....you could pop up and check too if you needed. Give yourself a break and enjoy yourself with dh for a couple of hours.

NorksAreMessy · 31/08/2013 22:37

Yes, do it!
What are you worrying about, exactly? It helps t o say it out loud

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 31/08/2013 22:38

I wouldn't.

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 31/08/2013 22:39

I suppose my thinking is this....just because someone who seems to be professional or respectable says something is ok...or someone is trustworthy...it doesn't mean they are.

topsyturner · 31/08/2013 22:49

I used to babysit for hotel guests .
I was a registered childminder and CRB checked .
I always brought the relevant paperwork with me to any job I was called to .
But not one person ever wanted to check them !

That always amazed me , I could have been anyone !

mummytime · 31/08/2013 22:52

Yes! But then I would have on your last thread too...so I'm obviously irresponsible.

Buddhagirl · 31/08/2013 22:53

Be fine, do it.

mathanxiety · 31/08/2013 22:53

When she was so quick to mention the babysitters I thought maybe she was telling you she doesn't really welcome babies in the dining room, in a roundabout way.

Fairylea · 31/08/2013 22:54

I wouldn't.

rootypig · 31/08/2013 22:57

Yeah definitely. At a friend's wedding in June we left 7mo DD sleeping with the teenage sister of another friend in a quiet room in the venue with our phone numbers. She was basically a human baby / fire alarm. DD woke at one point and DH popped over to soothe her then came back to the party. It worked brilliantly.

hettienne · 31/08/2013 22:59

I would - you'll be in the building, you can pop back and check anytime you want, they're mums and they must be reasonable babysitters as the hotel wouldn't keep using them otherwise.

Turniptwirl · 31/08/2013 23:26

In the same building with someone recommended by the hotel, yes. Ask for references if it will make you feel happier.

BackforGood · 31/08/2013 23:30

Yes, I would - I think that's a totally different scenario from your earlier thread. Smile

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emeraldgirl1 · 01/09/2013 00:21

Thanks everyone!

NorksAreMessy, I guess the thing that worries me, bonkers though it sounds, is what if the nice lady babysitter is in fact a terrible kiddy fiddler who does something unspeakable to DD and I never know about it until DD remembers it in therapy in 20 years time... Sorry, I know it sounds ridiculous!!!

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cranverry · 01/09/2013 01:06

Yes definitely. And we have done in the past. We had a function to attend in the hotel so we used a local babysitting agency which was recommended by the hotel . Worked out well and we've done it again since.

LolaCrayola · 01/09/2013 03:09

OP, you have some really serious issues that I don't think Mumsnet can help with. I think you need some professional help. Many new mothers worry that their babies will cry without them, but most do not see "kiddy fiddlers" in everyone. That is just over he top and a bit weird.

NeedlesCuties · 01/09/2013 07:23

Can we have a link to the earlier thread, please??

Mojavewonderer · 01/09/2013 08:13

Err op does that mean you will be home schooling your child then? If you can't even leave your baby without fear of kiddy fiddling then you are going to find the next 18 yrs difficult to say the least. By all means sensibly protect your child but that is ridiculous!

Whereisegg · 01/09/2013 08:35

If you will actually be 15 seconds away, then it isn't really any different from being on a different floor in your own house, or getting the washing in from the line.

If her being alone with a stranger is an issue, then what about a baby monitor?

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