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AIBU?

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to leave dh and dd's without a car tommorow?

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ditavonteesed · 31/08/2013 10:24

I am working tom, I could get the bus same as I do every other day, but I could also take the car which I cant on other days due to parking problems, if I took the car I could leave 20 mins later, so 6.30am rather than 6.10am, not much really. Also I would be home at 7.40pm rather than about 8.10pm which again is really not much.
If I dont take the car dh could take the dogs and kids somewhere lovely for a long walk, could also go and visit my parents. They would get so much more use out of the car than me.

I shouldnt take it should I? but the extra 50mins in total it gives me back makes so much difference when I am working a 12.5hr shift.

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lljkk · 31/08/2013 10:26

Wow, I'd be too exhausted to drive safely after a 12.5 hour shift.

KirjavaTheCat · 31/08/2013 10:27

Ask your DH what his plans are? Maybe he's not planning on taking her anywhere far.

HighJinx · 31/08/2013 10:28

You say that your dh could do things if you don't take the car but will he?

I would be more than a bit miffed if I got the bus and came home to find the car hadn't moved all day.

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ditavonteesed · 31/08/2013 10:28

we have already discussed it, he wants the car, he will take the kids somewhere for an adventure like we always do on sundays.

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LillyofWinchester · 31/08/2013 10:31

Can he give you a lift? If not let him have the car, but make sure he has your dinner ready and waiting for you on your return

dreamingbohemian · 31/08/2013 10:36

It would be nice if he could pick you up, even if it disrupts the evening routine somewhat it could be part of the adventure (we're going to pick up mum, yay!)

AnotherWorld · 31/08/2013 10:37

In those circumstances I'd leave the car. Sorry.

KirjavaTheCat · 31/08/2013 10:39

In that case I'd leave the car. I'd be in a similar position when I'd work awkward 12 hour shifts, taking the train was a pain in the backside, but all the car would do is sit in the carpark for 12 hours when OH and DS could be having more fun with it.

I agree with Lilly - can he pick you up?

yegodsandlittlefishes · 31/08/2013 10:54

What we used to do is bundle dcs into the car and take them with us while I dropped dh off at work (and picked him up with them later on).

The person in work gets first dibs on the car in this house. That is currently me and if dh wants to go somewhere on a day I work away from home, he has to organise his own transport.

BoozyBear · 31/08/2013 10:59

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nennypops · 31/08/2013 11:56

If there's a bus service nearby, why can't dh take the dcs out on that?

Or else, as suggested, perhaps dh could give you lifts there and back.

MortifiedAdams · 31/08/2013 12:03

Only I drive in this house and it really doesnt stop DH doing all sorts of fun stuff with dd when I am at work. However we have excellent transport links so even I barely use the car on my days off.

If he wants a good long walk with the kids, they could do that straight from the house.

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ditavonteesed · 31/08/2013 12:51

I wouldnt want them to give me a lift, I think getting the kids up at 6 on a sunday would just be mean (and dh but dont tell him I said that), they could pick me up though. They really need the car to go for a fun walk as one of the dogs is a bit grumpy with other dogs so much more fun is had when we drive away a bit and dont see lots of other people and dogs.

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lljkk · 31/08/2013 12:52

If this is a regular thing then alternating who gets the car on Sundays would be reasonable. As long as you both can plan for it.

SquinkiesRule · 31/08/2013 14:20

He could come and pick you up after work and save you some time heading home.

sashh · 31/08/2013 15:21

Your dh needs a car to go on a walk?

Take it, enjoy your extra time.

bababababoom · 01/09/2013 00:13

can't he get the bus?? YANBU. I have 3 children and take them out and about by bus every day, I'm sure he can cope one day without a car!

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ditavonteesed · 01/09/2013 05:51

its not the kids he cant get out without the car it's the dogs and the buses dont go in the direction we would take the dogs out, but its not a problem he will just have to take them for a lead walk as I a taking the car and I very much enjoyed my extra 15 mins in bed.

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