to stop having friends? I'd be lonely but at least I wouldn't have to be let again.

[ClaireCharlie]

It hurts so much when you make a plan weeks in advance and ask the people on a couple occasions are we still on for that night?

And then now they let you down and say maybe we should do it in October instead?

Why do I think October will be pushed to November, and then December is too busy and expensive and maybe the New Year instead?

Maybe it's me, maybe I'm a horrible person and should accept that I am going to be lonely forever?

I have similar issues whenever I make plans with anyone. They always 'forget' and then plan something else, or they end up being too busy/tired to actually go out in the end.

I've stopped initiating plans with people now and only go out if I'm invited, and I wait for people to chase me. If they don't contact me then I don't contact them to check the plans are still on. Harsh but it's made me that way

This is why I don't have friends

I am sure its not you. However, put your big girl pants on and get organising somthing that will focus you on positive things. Join a reading group, get on friends reunited, join a netball team. And suggest to you mates that you really need to offload and invite them over.

It sounds like you could do with some fresh energy around you.

There is real power in 'letting go'. Affirm to yourself that if you 'let go' emotionally of any expectations of people or 'let go' of certain people all together, you leave space for new people.

I know it's a bit woo but all life is energy. The thing we get most frustrated about are the are he things that we feel the greatest area of lack. It's chicken and egg.

You have got friends, there are people out there that want to be friends and want to socialise with you. If you want to give up on it that's fine but i don't think you'll be very happy with that!

Just be in the 'lonely' space and fill it with anticipation of the new! Start now and i'm certain in the next few months you will have a handful of invites.

Also be brave and if you meet someone you like give them your number. I have met a couple of friends this way. People are often happy as anything to be offered friendship. If they don't take it, don't worry about it. They are busy, distracted etc.. it's not important.

Just be open. After a bit of time changing your thinking and habits it'll all come naturally. You will probably find that the old friends come back too.... we all need change and fresh energy from time to time.

This happens with me all the time and I'm at uni! Feel like a nigel lol

I find that plans made weeks in advance are always the ones that fall through. Plans made at the last minute when there are a few people at a loose end seem to be best.

Have you got one or two friends that you can rely on turning up? If so make plans with them, invite the others and if they turn up consider it a bonus. If not then the two/three of you can still have a good night out.