AIBU to warn my DH and children about dangers whilst crossing the road?

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Crossing the road at a busy town center junction today. No pedestrian crossing points and traffic moving in both directions turning into the road we were crossing.
DH pushing buggy and we have a 5 yr old and fairly unobservant 7 yr old. Im a couple of steps behind. I thought they were about to cross having not seen a car behind them (as DH looking forward) that was indicating to turn in / had already started to turn). So I said (didn't raise my voice)
" Oh there's a car turning - hang on"
DH turned around and SHOUTED "I know I can see it stop shouting!"
I said "Im not shouting I just thought you hadn't seen it Im looking out for you"
DH screamed "You're screaming at me!" (I wasn't !)

Anyway I left it at that despite finding it embarrassing in front of a friend

Have just tried to discuss it and say that when he screamed I felt awful because I was only trying to help and just got accused of something I wasn't doing.He said I was patronizing him made him feel small. I disagreed and said in scenarios where safety is concerned and I perceive danger I will ALWAYS warn people because it's better to (possibly) annoy someone than risk an injury or accident. He disagrees with that .

Two very close family members have been killed in traffic collisions (one whilst on a crossing) so maybe I am being oversensitive?

AIBU??

Yanbu. It's always better to be safe than sorry IMO.

You treated you DH as if he was a child in front of your friend and you wonder why he wasn't happy?

I don't think I treated him like a child. I treated him like any one I thought may not have seen a danger. I didn't say it in a baby voice or make him hold my hand!

Doesn't sound to me like you patronised or condescended him, you merely pointed something out that you weren't sure if he'd seen. Obviously I didn't hear your tone but from what you've said it sounds perfectly reasonable.

YANBU, it's better to alert someone and later find out they know than not alert them for fear of offending/annoying and they get squashed.

My DH does this to me, and it fair drives me up the wall! It does make me feel like a child, like I am not capable of crossing the road without his help. So I can relate to what your DH is saying. YABU.

yanbu i do this to my teens and my mum , rather they got annoyed than knocked over , do it to my dh if hes driving and i think he hasnt seen a car pull out or someone cross the road as well.

YAB a bit unreasonable. He could see the car too, he is not a child.

This happens to me sometimes when driving the car.

I will be driving, spot a pedestrian, start slowing down (foot pressing down on the brakes) at which point my sister suddenly shouts out "Slow down!" which is very distracting.

At which point I take some of my attention away from the pedestrian, looking all around me for a second hazard. Turns out sister is referring to the pedestrian I was slowing down for in the first place!

Shouting out distracts the person from the hazard they were aware of and consciously avoiding, and could lead to an accident.

My Dad does this to me when I'm driving, points out something when I have already started reacting which makes me confused then v angry. He has a way about him though, once managed to make me stall my car about 7 times in a row despite not saying anything after the 3rd time. The stress makes me a bad driver.

YANBU, some twat of a DP for some poor lady nearly ended up with a dead child when said twat pushed the whole buggy into the road-standing on the curb himself- as I was turning the corner. I swerved, almost clipping the buggy and ended up on the other side of the road. Thank fuck for fast reflexes and that there was nothing coming the other side otherwise run-over baby or head on with innocent other car driver.

All because the twat wasn't paying attention. And he had the gall to smile gormlessly at me before trotting on. If I hadn't had to pull over to burst into tears at the thought of hitting a baby, I'd have let my later rage march over to him and punch him in the bollocks. Then I would have insisted he take me to the baby's mum so i could tell her how recklessly he endangered the child, not even caring after, and let her beat the shit out of him.

Not sayign your DP is a twat like that OP, but it only takes a second and if he hadn't seen it...doesn't bear thinking of.

I didn't shout out though. I thought he couldn't see the hazard as it was effectively behind him and his head was facing forward hence why I said it in a normal talking voice. Im also hurt at the way he screamed at me ironically accusing me of screaming when I was using normal voice.
Im quite suprised people get annoyed at others simply trying to help. Perhaps I have been more affected by family road deaths than I thought...

My thinking too Mia4

I don't think it's unreasonable at all. When I'm out with dh and the dcs it's not unusual for one of us to point out something like this if we think the other person hasn't seen. If I pointed out something and it turns out dh did see it he'll probably just say 'I've seen it don't worry' then we'll carry on with our day. It's just being sociable and caring really. The only person making a scene and looking silly was your dh imo. It's not like you rugby tackled him across the pavement then insisted on holding his hand to cross because he couldn't be trusted! Yanbu.