Would you let your 10 year old be on his own all day?

[VioletStar]

DS got a phone call inviting him and another friend (A) to play with friend (B). I presumed it was at his house/ cycling around thereabouts so despite being nervous said ok for a couple of hours.
45 mins later he's back with A and says B is on his way too. Whilst that's ok, I have texted B's mum to make sure it was ok that all 3 were descending on her at such short notice. She texted back saying she was fine with it. (spoken with A's dad too)
When they arrived I discover that B's mum is actually at work and he is on his own all day! (A's Dad is home and wants A back for lunch).
This is my last but one day before I am back at work and wanted to spend it with my kids, but happy if they want to play with their mates. I said I wouldn't have A all day because of this (A's mum is very good friend) and now I might have B because there is no way I could chuck out what is a very lonely little boy despite his bravado at being old enough to be 'independent'.
Hope this makes sense. AIBU in thinking his mum should have arranged childcare for her son cos at their age (just going into year 6) kids shouldn't be left on their own all day?

[impatienttobemummy]

I used to be left all day at this age, it's lonely, and dangerous

[marriedinwhiteisback]

Well dd was fine at 11 but had a 14 year old bro in and out. Until he was 14 we had au-pairs. And I worked within 10 mins of home and they cd contact me easily; plus v safe area and fantastic neighbours.

Can't help thinkin that perhaps mum HAS to work. Not everyone gets school holidays off you know. Full time working mums also get their dates mixed up

[mumofthemonsters808]

I used to leave my 10 year old whilst I went to the corner shop and felt guilty doing that.

A girl in DD's class (when she was in year 6) used to be left to get herself up and ready for school as her Mum left for work at 6.30am.She was also left to her own devices in the school holidays whilst Mum was working. In my eyes she was too young and I always felt sorry for this girl.

[RandomMess]

Nope too young IMHO, even when dd2 is 12 next summer I won't be doing that 3 hours or so at that age but not all day everyday whilst we're out at work. Really have no idea what we are going to so though

[Crowler]

No, not unless I had to.

I have a 10 (nearly 11) year old and I leave him for 1 or 2 hours with no problem.

If my job were in jeopardy, for example, and I really needed my job, I would leave him all day. But only if I really had to.

[Pannacotta]

No definitely not.

[omletta]

I leave my 11 year old for 6 - 8 hours with no issue. I live in a nice village, with lots of friends at home locally and actually I have to as he is too old for child care, so unless I can stay at home, or him come to work with me ....

We do have hourly contact though and he is sensible and responsible IMO!