Anyone who has read my previous recent threads will know the problems I have with my toxic family, mainly my sister and mother. I'm sure they are actually the same person.
I completely cut them off 5 and a half years ago, only for another member of the family to coax us all into speaking again a year later. Big mistake imo especially since nothing has changed.
Anyhow, during that year that we were estranged, I had all sorts of abuse from them, phone calls through out the night when DD was a matter of weeks old, vile messages left on voicemail, threats made etc etc, and on top of this, I was in severe financial difficulties, to the point where I was struggling to afford to keep a roof over our heads.
During this time, I didn't send any of my estranged family birthday or Christmas cards.
First of all, I didn't want to wake the lion up and get lots more abuse, and secondly I couldn't afford the postage. I know that sounds silly, but I have always given the children in the family money in their cards, and I was struggling to afford a stamp, let alone money too.
My sister phoned and left a message where she screamed at how unreasonable and selfish I was for not sending her children birthday/Christmas cards. She said that while it was to be expected that I didn't send her cards, it was unforgivable that I left her children without.
Roll forward to now. I have cut my mother off. My sister has not been in touch, so I am assuming she has taken sides with my mother. Not surprising.
It was DNephew's birthday last week, and I posted a card to him. I have not had any acknowledgement that he has received it. There was a birthday gathering at my sisters, but neither DD nor I were invited or even told about it, so we didn't go, but after last time, I sent DNephew a card, and I thought it would be nice if DNephew or sister just texted to say Thank you, birthday card received..something.
So AIBU to not want to send anymore birthday/Christmas cards if they are going to behave this way? Or should I assume it got lost in the post and not leave DNiece's and Dnephews out?