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AIBU?

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Job situation - Help !

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NameChanger123456 · 29/08/2013 12:40

Short story is : went for two interviews within one week of each other, both get back to me and one (Job A) says 'We will take a while to reach a decision due to holiday times' the other one (Job B) wants to do second round interviews.

Don't hear from Job A for weeks, but get asked for second interview of Job B - three days later I was offered the job. Great, hand in notice at current job and am currently working out notice period.

I've just been asked for a second interview for Job A, now on paper if they were the same salary, same hours and same location I would on principle say 'Thanks but not thanks' as I have already been offered a job.

However Job A is less hours, 5 mins from home, and considerably (to me) more money and more child friendly working hours (only by a margin as the other one is ok too).

Should I go for the interview ? AIBU to still go for another job ? I've agreed a date for the second interview but feel a bit guilty about what I'm doing but at the same time thinking it's a lot more money for less hours and would make commute etc a LOT easier :(

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mlamle · 29/08/2013 12:46

I'd definitely go for the interview - you'll be kicking yourself if you don't at least give yourself the chance. If it helps with the guilt feelings, think of it as a fall-back plan in case you start job B and find that it really isn't working out for some reason...

OnTheBottomWithAWomansWeekly · 29/08/2013 12:48

Plus at the interview you will gain more info on job A that may inform your decision.

Anyway you don't have a job offer re A till you actually have a job offer re A (iyswim) so you may not have to make the decision at all/till after the interview.

ilovesooty · 29/08/2013 12:50

If you've accepted job B and agreed a start date you aren't available for job A as I see it.

SandStorm · 29/08/2013 12:52

I think you need to be very careful with this one. Industry is a small world and people talk between businesses. You may find it difficult to move jobs again in the future. Reputation will always precede you (depending on the industry).

primallass · 29/08/2013 12:53

Yes go for it.

claretandamberforever · 29/08/2013 12:53

I've worked in a few places where the preferred candidate has accepted only to give backword after a better job offer if that makes you feel any better? (admin type jobs)

mrsbeano · 29/08/2013 12:55

Unless you've signed a contract then you're still free technically but I would be up front with the recruiters etc.

lljkk · 29/08/2013 12:55

go 4 interview

londonrach · 29/08/2013 12:56

This is a hard one. If the interview doesnt effect job b go for it. You havent been offered job a. Imagine if you turned job b down and didnt get job a. Good luck with whatever you decide x

pinkdelight · 29/08/2013 12:59

Definitely go for interview. Is there any way you can be open about it - play it the right way and it could be good leverage for closer company to snap you up. No need to be sneaky, but if Company A is risking losing you because of delays, they might suddenly get a sense of urgency if they know you're in demand.

WhoNickedMyName · 29/08/2013 12:59

Part of me says go for it.

On the other hand I've known someone do exactly this, she let job B down only a week or so before she was sue to start there, accepted job A, and was made redundant 6 months later.

It depends on whether you believe these thing come back around to bite you on the arse.

Job A already seems a bit meh to me - they can't make any decisions yet because of holiday times? And only now they've decided to do second round interviews? Not really giving an impression of an efficiently run workplace, are they?

Kerosene · 29/08/2013 13:02

What do you lose by going for the interview? I'd be spitting feathers if I was employer B - but your loyalty has to be to yourself first, and employer A are offering you better terms.

I was in a similar situation to you earlier this year - I'd been offered and taken a job at X, but had an interview at Y. That job was for substantially more money, but the atmosphere was...tense (didn't get the job either way). I'm glad I did go to the interview though - no "what if"s hanging over me.

ilovesooty · 29/08/2013 13:02

Agree with SandStorm

What would employer A say if they knew about job B?

I'd question your integrity and have doubts about employing you.

quesadilla · 29/08/2013 13:02

I would say go for it. The job market is so skewed against employees at the moment I would say do whatever you have to do.

marriedinwhiteisback · 29/08/2013 13:06

Go to the interview. If it's offered think about what suits you best. If job A offers, you could always be up front with job B and explain your reasons - they might even improve your terms. I once refused a great job because I'd already accepted another - big mistake. It happens all the time and is unlikely to be held against you providing you are honest.

pinkdelight · 29/08/2013 13:08

If you're clear and professional, I don't see the problem. Why would Company B expect great loyalty from you at this stage? You'd be daft not to weigh up your options. Go to the interview, tell Company A discretely that they need to decide as you have another offer on the table, see what they say. If it's a no, you've not lost anything. If it's a yes, you decide... Sounds like you know what you'd choose anyway, so why cut that off?

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