DH's Job Application - Employer Contacted Me?!?

[ChulaVista]

Name changed so as to avoid any identifying details.

I don't know what to make of this and would welcome some perspective. DH applied for a job recently. It was a company where a friend of mine worked, not a close friend but a guy I know through a mutual hobby. So up popped this pm on my Facebook which said "I have [DH's] CV in front of me, what do you think I should do with it?"

I felt really embarrassed and just replied that I didn't know, he should do with it what he thought best. He mentioned a mutual friend, who also does the same sport and asked me whether I thought he was gay! I told him I didn't really know what he was talking about and that was that.

Anyway, DH didn't get an interview, although theres a skills shortage in his field and he is a very highly paid specialist in it who is very difficult to recruit. I found out through another friend in the company that they employed someone they have to fly on a round trip of 900 miles each week, as he doesn't want to relocate.

No idea what I should do or anything about this, I get the feeling the company is run by idiots, but any perspective on what it was all about?

It all sounds very unprofessional to me. I reckon your husband is well off out of it!

From my limited experience of such things I would say that your acquaintance is an unprofessional twat & your husband has probably had a lucky escape.

I think you should forget about it and write it off as a lucky escape for both of you - your DH sounds as if he should have no trouble finding another job, so he has escaped working in a strangely run company which is bound to be riddled with potential personal conflict and manipulative management, and you have escaped having to have more involvement than your hobby requires with somebody who has very odd boundaries between professional and private by the sound of it...

Oh wait there was something about the mutual friend "being a member of the blue oyster club" - I said I had absolutely no idea what he was talking about. Has anyone ever heard of that? Is it a euphemism for something?

Do you still have the messages? I'd be very tempted to send them to head office, asking if this was the norm when it came to their hiring process.

It sounds as though he was using your husband's application as an excuse to start a conversation where the main purpose was to get the lowdown on this guy he fancies.

The Blue Oyster is a gay bar in the Police Academy films. He was saying whoever is gay.

blue oyster club = obscure reference to being gay

Be glad he didn't get it. Sounds like a horribly run place.

And I would see that reference as derogatory rather than him fancying the man in question.

I do still have the messages. They were sent during working hours too, and not at lunchtime. However I get the impression that the company is full of idiots. The thing was I thought this was quite a decent guy, someone to be friends with, and I can't understand why he would behave like this, its as if he wanted me to either grovel or flirt with him so DH would be considered. And the CV was sent in confidence, it has all of DH's personal information on it, qualifications, salary, etc..

If I did this in my field and it was found out I would be sacked!

How very strange.

Like previous posters have said, DH has had a lucky escape!

And I think the Blue Oyster Club is a reference to the gay bar in Police Academy? I've heard it before.

Coola And I would see that reference as derogatory rather than him fancying the man in question

Definately not gay. Tried to have an affair with a woman who used to work there while having a very long term live in girlfriend. I'm friends with the guy the reference was made to, and I got the impression he was jealous of this and wanted to get in on the act.

I would certainly report it to the managment.

The guy had your DH's CV, so was on the shortlisting panel? That's really not OK. His application should have been treated with strict confidence. And WTF about the gay reference?
Irrespective of whether your DH had a lucky escape, I think I'd consider reporting the messages to his head office.

I believe he was handed the CV by his own manager, as he was tasked with finding candidates for that particular role. I'm not sure, he might have been handed it because there was a reference to the mutual hobby on the CV and he jumped up and said "Oh hang on, I know this guy". I'm just guessing really. All I know for sure is that I wasn't part of their recruiting process. From what I can make out, nepotism is rife in this particular industry (thankfully I don't work in it myself).

And obviously, I didn't give the right sort of response for DH's application to progress!

You should report this guy to whoever is above him/HR. Absolutely unacceptable.

You don't just hand CVs around like that. What does your DH think about it?

Report him! .

I have a feeling he was hoping to try and get you to sleep with him in order for DH to get the job. I just get that feeling from the way he worded it.

Agree, SeaSick, there was a definite power trip of some description going on there.

Attention seeking or power trip maybe.

I got the feeling he was expecting me to start batting back with the replies/references/whatever. But I'm not really into that, I was just really taken aback.

DH definitely wouldn't want to work in a place like that. Have told mutual friend who works in the company, she is quite in with his boss and will mention it at an opportune moment.

Breach of data protection - disclosing personal data....

Report him.

Um, he was hoping to blackmail you into shagging him.

Report and enjoy it - horrid little turd.