to not want to share a villa ever ever again

[Mollywashup]

we had the holiday from hell this year there was eight of us two couples me, husband and our two kids we vowed never to share a villa with them again (selfish, tightfisted, ones a complete control freak, took over kitchen like it was her own just to name a few) has to be the worst holiday i have ever been on anyway now i have been looking for next years holiday, found a nice apartment for four how do i tell them that we are not going in a villa again with them and if they want to come they will have to find there own accommodation

Just like that.

Just tell them you prefer to sort your own accommodation this time. Though, tbh, I wouldn't even be telling them when you are going away if it was that bad.

Just book your own holiday then if they mention it just say 'oh, sorry, we've already booked for next year. Really just want a family holiday alone'

If they are that bad I wouldn't be going anywhere with them!

There is no law that says holidays have to be with other people! Just say no when they ask if you are up for it

Why even tell them? Book and if they ask (and you are happy for them to be near you on holiday!) tell them to sort their own accomodation. Or if you don't want to be with them at all just say you're going away as a family this year.

How much of an expectation is there that you will all go on holiday together again?

I would wait for them to being it up and then tell them that you've already booked. Or just casually drop into conversation that you've booked something, so you get in there first without any confrontation.

I have the same problem, only it is my SIL and after this summer we are not going away with them again (may go for a weekend but no longer). Very, very controlling behaviour and much more than we wanted to spend.

My approach is if they ask (it is usually after some wine when I'm feeling happy and that yeah that is a good idea) is to say that we don't know what we will be doing next year so they shouldn't rely on us and sort something out themselves. Alternatively I'm thinking of saying that the priority for us is a family holiday on our own and we are unlikely to have any spare time / cash after that. I want to knock any ideas on head as soon as they are raised so that we don't get guilt tripped into something.

Have you been away with them all many times before and has there been an expectation that you all go away together each year? If so, maybe say that you want to just holiday with your children this year for x reason. If this was the first time, just book it and don't mention it.

I'm interested to see what other advice you get as I am looking for ideas on this.

i would just go ahead and book somewhere. other alternative is to say 'well we aren't sure what we are doing this year/we may not go away this year so its best if you just go ahead and book your holiday'.

we had freeloaders who were suppossedly broke one year, but not so broke they couldn't spend loads of money on themselves. never again.

Try a different location.

Are they family, or people you have a long tradition of holidaying with? The longer it's been going on, the more awkward it will feel to break away, but you really just need to say oh, we've decided to do something different this year...
I used to do a villa holiday with my sister every year (for more than ten years) but got fed up with her need for control, over-protective parenting and obvious irritation with DS, so three years ago when it came round to holiday-booking time I just said 'this year we're thinking of doing [something you will hate]' and she said, 'oh, I think we'll do a villa in France again', and we've gone our separate ways since, probably both heaving a sigh of relief.

this is the third holiday we have had with them first two were fine because we were in middle of a resort so we could go out and eat and not spend much time in the villa and with each other but this one was a taxi ride into centre so we had to eat in through the day and go out at night thats when you see people for what they are faults and all. i know they will be expecting to go again, its become the norm now

We went on our honeymoon with my BIL and his wife. First time I'd holidayed with another couple. I didn't really like it, too much compromise and so on. So never did it again. We always just go on holiday by ourselves.