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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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It's a public toilet, bloody hurry up!

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Kendodd · 28/08/2013 22:45

What are they doing in there? Massive line, and I swear some people are in there for ten minutes. AIBU to ask, if you are a toilet hogger, what are you doing the bloody crossword?

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Jan49 · 29/08/2013 19:18

I don't get annoyed with people taking a long time in a toilet. If I'm waiting and desperate, I hope there will quickly be a toilet available but that's my issue not theirs. If I'm a long time it's because I'm having a period.

Purple2012 · 29/08/2013 19:24

Yes amber it could be but not everyone who takes ages has a problem with mobility. I often see people come out putting make up back in their bag. Or answer their phone while in there and take ages.

If im intolerant its because I have a bladder problem and when I need to wee I really need to go. If I have to hold it in I am in a lot of pain and I am worried I won't be able to hold it.

A lot of the time people are left waiting because people don't care about inconveniencing other people.

missgrainger · 29/08/2013 19:33

Weeing myself laughing at WITMIMS darting around to get the autoflush to work. Stand up? sit down? clap hands? rush to the door? cough?

Snatchoo · 29/08/2013 19:37

Sorry Ken - was it Old Swan Tesco?

I had SOD (Suddon Onset Diarrhoea) and tried to blame it on DTS2 but he was having none of it .

I did do a courtesy flush in the middle though didn't want to gas the other shoppers

missgrainger · 29/08/2013 19:38

Just re-read this thread. How come so many mumsnetters have IBS?

MrsHoarder · 29/08/2013 19:43

Long-lasting side effect of childbirth? Its not that rare anyway.

missgrainger · 29/08/2013 19:45

It seems unusually common in mumsnetters though - or maybe the MN's with IBS were drawn to this thread?

UnicornsNotRiddenByGrownUps · 29/08/2013 19:54

Maybe they are on mumsnet because they are stuck in the house or on the loo!

ArabellaBeaumaris · 29/08/2013 20:01

I've spent ages in cubicles expressing breast milk before now.

AmberLeaf · 29/08/2013 20:07

missgrainger Id imagine that people with IBS might well be drawn to such a thread.

Its fairly common though I think.

WhoKnowsWhereTheTimeGoes · 29/08/2013 20:18

I know several people with it in real life (all women). I also know a lot of women through the prolapse threads that have a great deal of difficulty with bowel movements and urination, it is more common than I used to realise and causes a great deal of distress. But not something a lot of people can talk about openly.

catsmother · 29/08/2013 20:29

You surely can't believe that anyone would willingly spend a moment longer than they have to in a public loo ?!? ..... ergo, if someone's taking a long time there's usually a damn good reason for it - as suggested by several posters above ..... the only exception I can think of being gaggles of teenage girls who all squash into a single cubicle and proceed to shriek, squawk and giggle for ages.

Personally, I'm another IBS sufferer. Believe me, I find it mortifying to use public loos when having an attack - you get hot and cold sweats, feel extremely nauseous, endure horrendous cramps akin to contractions, and daren't move for up to an hour (!!) sometimes even though "nothing" happens for several minutes, then you "go" (a bit), followed by another spell of "nothing" - except pain - for several more minutes and so on and so on. It is awful to be in that much discomfort and be sat in an often foul smelling loo (foul smelling before you got there that is), thighs pressed against a malodorous sanitary bin etc - when all you want is the comfort and privacy of home where you're not conscious of every noise you make (beyond your control) and the queue outside - sometimes stood literally right by your door. But the alternative would be to never venture out at all!

I once also miscarried in a public toilet .... which meant I took quite a time ....

catsmother · 29/08/2013 20:32

Yes, MissGrainger, this thread title was like a red rag to a bull !

Chrissy178 · 30/08/2013 13:41

As somebody who has ulcerative colitis and has found myself stuck in the loo for 10-20 minutes at a time on a few occasions before in pain when experiencing a sudden flare, yabu.

I don't like using public loos but the alternatives are to either crap myself or walk around in agony.

LickleLemon · 30/08/2013 13:51

Can see both sides of this. I have IBD and have times when I hog the bog .

That said I do find some people take an absolute age in the loo and I can only conclude we are a nation of women with hell of alot of issues somewhere down there. Just yesterday I was waiting for a loo in very very long queue in town. When I finally got to the stage of the queue I could see the cubicles (and got excitied that I may soon be able to use the loo) all 8 toilets had the doors firmly closed for what seemed ages before anyone emerged. The queue just did not move for 10 minutes or so.

buttermellow · 30/08/2013 14:33

I spent 30 minutes in a public toilet a couple of weeks ago.. I had sudden severe diarrhea and couldn't stand up as it kept pouring. Terrible. I had to use the loo in a pub, then a cafe's, then Asdas as every time it stopped, it started again within a few minutes .. Like someone said when I have a spell I have usually up to 30 mins of contractions, then I go, then 5 minutes of contractions, then I have diarrhea which comes in waves for about 20 minutes. I really can't go any faster.

Also heavy periods, I spent 15 mins in the loo during a theatre interval changing my clothing, trying to discreetly wash with wipes and sort myself out so I didn't cover the theatre seat :(

sonlypuppyfat · 30/08/2013 14:44

Oh buttermellow you poor thing that must have been awful, I nearly shit myself when I was 14 I had to run into a ladies hairdressers that was 32 years ago and I can remember it like yesterday

UnicornsNotRiddenByGrownUps · 30/08/2013 15:17

buttermellow the former situation has been me for the past few days. Has been terrible but thankfully it started right before I left for work so I managed to be at home instead.

RinseAndRepeat · 30/08/2013 16:49

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Happeningagain · 30/08/2013 17:42

I'm dreading being the one who pisses someone off tomorrow. I'm off out all day without the baby and will need to top at least twice to express milk. I know from previous experience that the anxiety of being in public makes it far trickier to express, and takes much longer.

Steely57 · 31/01/2020 17:11

I have a chronic bowel condition and need to use a public toilet several times a day. It takes a while and i cant help that. I usually experience abuse several times a day too, because of how long i spend on the toilet. Forgive me if i despise the ignorance if this thread. Spend an hour in the shoes of someone with a disability some time

Rainbowx · 31/01/2020 17:50

Steely57 this thread is from 2013...........

Steely57 · 31/01/2020 18:28

So what. Its still on the internet and accessible by search engine any time

BanKittenHeels · 31/01/2020 18:52

Zombie shitting.

whatdoyouthinkyouknow · 01/02/2020 04:48

@BanKittenHeels

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