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to be upset about what this courier said to me?

32 replies

ConfuzzledToTheMax · 28/08/2013 10:35

I had 5 boxes delivered yesterday and the guy said my 6th would be here today.
It was the same guy, when I opened door and he said "told you it'd be here today. What if it was in back of my van whole time and I just wanted to see you again?"
Then started asking if I thought he was good looking and was all "hopefully I'll see you again".
It doesn't sound much written down but his tone creeped me out, as did the "see you again". I'm very very small and it was obvious I was in alone. Am I overthinking it?!

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MisselthwaiteManor · 28/08/2013 10:37

That would creep me out too but he might just be rubbish at talking to women.

Shakirasma · 28/08/2013 10:38

He sounds like a right creep. Trust your instincts.

VanitasVanitatum · 28/08/2013 10:44

Sounds a bit OTT, don't get yourself worried about it though, he was probably just trying it on, rather than being a bit sinister.. (not condoning that of course, he shouldn't have said it!)

pianodoodle · 28/08/2013 10:49

I don't mind a bit of cheeky flirtiness but I don't actually want to be left feeling like there are going to be a pair of eyes peeping through the trees when I go to put the bins out!

Lweji · 28/08/2013 10:52
Hmm

Did you looked annoyed at him and made it clear you didn't like his apparent advances?

If he repeated it, I'd be inclined to call his employers.

burberryqueen · 28/08/2013 10:56

i hope you gave him an icequeen stare - if he sounded creepy, it was creepy.
you might consider phoning his head office.

Marcheline · 28/08/2013 11:03

It sounds creepy to me, though I get irritated if someone tries to 'chat me up'.

I would seriously think about calling the courier company and making a complaint. It's not ok to make a person feel uncomfortable in their own home, and joking about having kept one of the parcels seems inappropriate.

At best, it was ill judged and awkward. YANBU

pianodoodle · 28/08/2013 11:07

The bit where he joked about keeping the parcel made me think "awww sweet" but then I read the second paragraph and though "oooh noooo"

JohFlow · 28/08/2013 11:07

Well he is just a courier driver and he has no more parcels for you right now - so forget it xx

babybearsmummy · 28/08/2013 11:08

What a creep :/

DuelingFanjo · 28/08/2013 11:08

report him for inappropriate behaviour.

LEMisdisappointed · 28/08/2013 11:10

Thats actually really horrible and no, i don't think you should forget it i'd report it.

Birdsgottafly · 28/08/2013 11:10

It's times like this it is useful being human, as we have the gift of verbal communication.

He has made a clumsy attempt at showing that he is interested in you, all you do is open your mouth and make it clear that you are not interested back, no need to involve employers at this stage.

Just because you are confident enough to show that you are interested in someone, doesn't mean that you would stalk someone, or are "sinister".

After all, he doesn't get the opportunity to meet people in work, as such and he may have a limited circle of family and friends.

LEMisdisappointed · 28/08/2013 11:13

Birdsgottafly - really??? a bit like pianonoodle, the joke about keeping the parcel was quite sweet but the "do you think im good looking" comment - WTAF? That is frigtening and if he were my employee he would be looking for a new job.

Sawdust · 28/08/2013 11:14

That would creep me out too!

Rooners · 28/08/2013 11:19

He's being totally inappropriate and yes it would have creeped me out too.

He is in a position where he is potentially witholding your delivery in order to flirt with you

He also knows where you live

You are in a vulnerable situation there and on some level he knows it. He needs to be told in no uncertain terms not to do this again.

twat

LessMissAbs · 28/08/2013 11:19

It must be creep season or something. I don't find the reference to keeping your property in the back of his van "sweet" and there are ways of chatting women up without being so blatant and creepy about it. wtf Birdsgottafly he's a courier - he will be meeting customers all the time and that's sounds like a very practised, sleazy line if ever I've heard one.

Rooners · 28/08/2013 11:20

Saying that your best defence is probably to roll your eyes and laugh at him, dismissively, and give him a weird look.

And not order from the place that uses this courier for a while.

Doubtfuldaphne · 28/08/2013 11:24

Nip it in the bud and talk to management just invade he's a weirdo. It would make future deliveries very awkward but best for him to know there's a line he must not cross.
I had a similar experience with a post man! He ended up getting arrested as his intentions were extremely scary and I had no idea.

Doubtfuldaphne · 28/08/2013 11:24

Invade = in case! Sorry!

Bowlersarm · 28/08/2013 11:26

Report to courier company.

Weird, inappropriate, unprofessional behaviour.

Gruntfuttock · 28/08/2013 11:29

Yuk, that would give me the creeps too. Horrible and totally unacceptable behaviour IMO.

justanothernotsoyummymummy · 28/08/2013 11:31

Definitely creepy. I'd report for sure OP.

Lweji · 28/08/2013 11:31

If a courier had said he had kept a package in his van and not delivered on purpose I might tell him that I hoped he was joking because I needed that item.

That alone should merit a complaint, as they are supposed to deliver stuff, not delay it.

TheGirlFromIpanema · 28/08/2013 11:31

Did you have an actual conversation with him?

I'm a bit Shock that anyone would ask 'do you think I'm good looking?' if there was no conversation whatsoever leading up to that! I'd burst out laughing most likely, but would also keep a mental note 'just in case'.

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