To want to make some new friends and start 'afresh'?

[Lumpybumpymuma]

Argh, sounds awful I know.

I am friends, mainly on fb, with 5 girls from school - we meet up 2/3 times a year. They are nice, but I feel I'm not really myself with them, they know me (and, I suspect, I know them) as I was when I was 18. I'm now 37. They weren't the people I turned to during miscarriages, divorce, 2nd marriage etc etc....

I also have friends from my first antenatal class. My ds is now 9 and, as a group, we have been through a lot. I see this group more than I see my school friends but not that often either. Life has sent us adrift.

Aibu to feel like I'd like to make some friends for the here and now, who I have stuff in common with, get husbands and kids together etc etc.....

Where do I start.....?

Lumpy, you could be me, minus the Facebook connection as I don't use it, but I have a group of friends that I have known since I was 16, im now 43.

I also have a set if friends I've had for the past 6/7 years, mostly met through ds's school/after school activities etc.

I came to the conclusion recently that the more recent group are the ones I feel closest to, the ones I would go to or turn to after my family, the ones I feel easiest around. I feel pressure to get drunk, stay out til silly-o-clock, act like im still 21 with my older friends - a lot of them just love going to clubs and partying and its just not my thing anymore! Id rather do quiet pub or nice meal that didn't have to turn into new years eve....

Its difficult though, isn't it? Dh said just see them less, when im up for a big night out but I've started to feel guilty as I think they've noticed im coming out a lot less.

So I guess I need the advice as much as you! Ideally, keep both sets, but the less time I spend with my older friends, the more I realise I really don't miss them.