It's not really your thing...

[Souredstones]

Aibu to be getting incredibly pissed off with people saying either I shouldn't try something I want to do or don't invite me to a social gathering because "it's not really your thing"

How do you bloody know if its not my thing, have you asked me?

If I want to jump out a plane I bloody well will, if I want to go out and get bollocksed with my friends I will, if I want to have a spa day I will.

But to not invite me or to try and stop me doing something because, in your humble opinion it's just 'not your thing', oh do fuck off...

AIBU?

YANBU it's rude to assume someone won't like something without actually asking them first or inviting them.

Yanbu at all! That kind of thing gets right on my pip.

Yanbu

Do whatever you want to do!

When it's an invite situation is it just an excuse for not inviting certain people - say they want to keep it a select group so don't invite some and don't know how to excuse excluding some people?

I do quite a few things where I wouldn't expect various people to attend because it's not really their thing. I still ask them though, even though we both know they'll decline, because it's a social nicety that avoids anyone feeling excluded. However, you occasionally get feedback along the lines of "that bloody Dahlen keeps inviting me to xxxx when she knows I can't stand it."

YANBU to not want people to say you shouldn't try something. None of their business really

But YABU to tell them who they should and shouldn't invite to their own organised gathering. They are actually just making an excuse because they don't want you there and don't want to tell you directly.

Be honest..... do you have form for turning up to stuff that probably isn't your thing and then cat's bumfacing at anyone who's enjoying themselves?

One of my mates has, and tbh it's easier to just not invite her to certain things.

Yes! One subsection of this is the assumption that as a lone parent I have no childcare. My friend had a party and told me 'I thought you'd have to look after DD, so I didn't invite you' but invited our single dad friend. Ironically, he couldn't make it due to childcare whereas I would have had no issue arranging for a babysitter. Infuriating!