To think that they should at least have sent a card!

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Hello all, first post please don't flame me!
In brief, my ex and I split 8 years ago but I have always maintained a good relationship with my sdd1 and 2. My ex and I had a ds when the girls were 10 and 14 respectively. They always spent time with their brother and babysat but now they are much older (28 and 24) the least we do is swap presents at Xmas and birthdays. This year ds turned 14 on Sunday and, at the moment, we haven't seen any sign of his sisters at all. Not even a card pushed through the door. quite frankly I am absolutely fuming with them and the longer it goes on the angrier I get. I know that they both work but I can see from FB that the older one was having a chinese and watching a film with her friend on Sunday - it wouldn't have killed her to pop in and say happy birthday!

well to be fair, 28 and 24 year olds who are still single and working will be relishing the bank holiday and have plans. If they barely ever see him now, its is entirely possibly that they have forgotten. I'm 37 and do really try to remember family birthdays but do rely on my mum to remind me of cousins, aunts etc. (I do immediate family). It depend how close the relationship is as to whether you are being unreasonable. Is its possible that they have texted him instead?

Is the first year they've not done it?

I bought a card over a week ago for DH's nephew to congratulate him for passing his exams. I've just noticed this morning it's still sat on the side, unwritten and obviously very un sent.

Does he want to see his sisters? Just text them and ask them to pop in for birthday tea one night this week so they can have some cake.

YABU to expect them to pop in, it is a holiday weekend and they might have had plans. Even if they wanted to stay in, that could be their plans.

YANBU to have expected them to at least call or text.

Dunno. My sister has a policy of not sending cards to anyone. Even though I know that, I still have a pang of disappointment every year I don't get one, as emotional reactions don't always follow logic. Plenty of other people forget birthdays. If they've remembered every other family member's birthday but this one, I might wonder, but if they've not bothered with anyone else either, then that's just the way it is. And once I was away from home, I didn't go back home for birthdays (but then I wasn't in "popping in" distance.)

Yabu, they probably just forgot amid bank holiday fun

Only since having children myself (at age 28) am I more inclined to send cards to children. In my selfish, hazy, drunken, work hard / play hard 20's, it wouldn't have crossed my mind that I'd offend you for not sending your son a card, especially if he's a teen.

I'm only being honest.

I'm now 30 & not like that now and try to remember birthdays but I do forget the odd one and have to send a grovelling 'sorry it's late' card with extra money Perhaps send a reminder text next year the week before - I would have appreciated that (my mum still reminds me of my nan's birthday)!

Hope your ds had a nice day

OK so IABU but just find it really disappointing that they couldn't spare him a thought. It is quite unusual for the eldest she can be quite thoughtful, hey ho .