To think this is really lazy?

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I spent quite a lot of time making a present for my niece and combined the homemade gift with a bought wooden toy to play with as well. The only thanks I have had from parents is a group email, purportedly from the baby to 'dear everyone who gave me a present'. AIBU to think that this is really lazy and bloody ungrateful? I sent individual thank you letters for all the presents my DCs received until they were old enough to write their own. I don't think an email is unreasonable these days, but I would have liked to have been addressed directly. What do you think, should I just have lower my expectations?

I think the main thing is that the present is acknowledged in some way. I don't mind if it's a generic thank you, as long as I'm thanked. Otherwise I'm left wondering if it arrived or not, plus it's just rude.

But when my ds was too little to do his own thank you notes, I wrote handwritten thank you notes to everyone.

I think the main thing is they said thank you, so you know the gift was received. I have sent things and had no acknowledgement of any kind! But generally they don't get a second gift!

Steiner would have sent you a thank you himself. Maybe they are just not as sensitive. pat on the back for the wooden toy and handicraft.

Also I'm going to disagree with the general trend here as I LOVE getting pictures of the child (even with a generic greeting) and I actually find thank yous written from the child rather cute.

I think YAmostlyBU - at least you GOT a thank you, even if it wasn't personalised to you.

I NEVER get thank you's from my DH's side of the family, so it wouldn't bother me, I'd just be pleased to receive it.

The DC are now old enough to call and thank personally for presents received, which tends to go down well, but we've also sent group emails with photos attached of them opening presents on Birthdays/Christmas. For non relatives ( like guests at a Christening for example) we would send individual thank you's iykwim ?

I had to do this for dd1 this year as I lost the list of who got what. I was mortified as I like them to be personalised. But I made that clear in the thank you!

When you've put a lot of thought into a gift, then a generalised 'thank you' is lazy and thoughtless imo.

Especially when the child is old enough to write their own thank-yous and it's clear the parent has produced it.