To think you shouldn't kiss a baby if you have a bug?

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DPs brother is totally smitten with our DD to the point of it being a bit OTT Anytime we visit DPs Mums house he is always there & hogs the baby. We all laugh about it but at times I've found it overbearing & creepy
Yesterday he comes into the house & is reeking of TCP. I didn't mention it. But a few hours later, and he's STILL holding DD, kissing her, whispering in her face etc etc, DP asks him why he & now the baby smells of TCP. He says "I don't know" & denies having used it. It later comes out that he has a really sore throat & gargled with it that morning.

Am I being unreasonable to think if you have a sore throat or some kind of cold/bug you shouldn't be kissing a young baby? DD is only 8 weeks old.

I was really annoyed about it & told DP I thought he was really selfish. DP thinks I'm overreacting & giving him a hard time.

Are all sore throats caused by bugs?

Think you're being a bit pfb here.

The concern is if a coldsore is present or about to occur as not recommended to kiss a baby if have a coldsore Although it is usual to be smitten with new babies they do need their own personal space so if think someone is overpowering perhaps distract them away by saying baby needs a nappy check or change of room to stimulate their senses just to give a break from it

So it's fine for babies to be passed to people with the cold? I've always avoided young babies when I had a sore throat/cold so they didn't get it..

I wouldn't thank anyone for kissing my babies if they had a sore throat.

YANBU

I think you are being pfb.

Babies are resilient, on the whole.

Yanbu I would be pissed off its very thoughtless to put the baby at risk

YANBU about kissing a baby with a cold but YAsooooooooooooooooBU about calling him creepy because he loves his niece.

Yanbu. Not necessary to put baby at risk of catching virus so yiung when it can easily be avoided. Yes baby would be fine and get over it. But its just not necessary.

Presumably, he's not kissing her on the mouth?

Certain viruses can be harmful such as herpes virus which causes cold sores or infectious diseases such as measles in young babies Babies do however have passive immunity from their mothers when born normally and gather some from their milk too...they are quite resilient if think of hospitals medical staff carry all sorts of viruses such as colds but still go to work with children

YANBU. My DD is 10 weeks old, and if I know someone is habouring germs, I won't let them touch her. Fine when she's a bit older and is shoving everything in her mouth anyway, but totally unnecessary at such a young age. Maybe I am pfb too, but I don't care!

Yep, pfb.

The odd behaviour though is another matter, whispering in her face...?

Yanbu. I don't think avoiding unneeded contact with germs/illness when you have a very young baby is 'pfb' or over protective. I think it is sensible.

Yanbu, why put her through the upset of bring ill at such a young age when it can be avoided.

He should have been up front and let you as parents decide what you're comfortable with. Hope she's ok x

About the keenness... If he reeks of tcp then he won't be kissing and whispering to her much beyond the point she can make her own mind up about who's in her space! At least he acknowledged he might not be well and tried though... Better than someone coughing and spluttering but still insisting "it's nothing"... Grrr!

Agree with above, nappy change and bf good excuses to remove her and you! xx

Candy- I know! I surprised myself by how I felt after she was born. But anytime he's visiting I don't get my baby til he/we are gone - he doesn't let her go or give her back to me without being really grumpy.
Bowlersarm- he kisses her on the mouth, head, everywhere.
Woodland- if he had admitted that he had a sore throat & it was him that reeked of TCP I would have been less annoyed as I would've had the chance to ask him, in that case, not to go too near the baby I he felt unwell. But he denied it. He eventually admitted it was him that smelled of TCP & it was because he had a sore throat. So he knew he shouldn't really have been so close to the baby bits isn't want to say. I think it's really selfish.