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Friend has changed plans for today and is in a bad mood with me as I won't go along with it.

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Nonalphamum · 26/08/2013 10:42

My friend and I were, at her suggestion, going to meet up today in town to browse round the shops and have some lunch with our youngest DCs in tow.

She text me first thing this morning saying that she has now invited another friend along, X, and that X doesn't want to go into town so now the plan has changed and we are all going to the cinema.

I really don't fancy going to the cinema today, and simply text her back saying that I don't fancy the cinema so I'll catch up with her soon, hope she has a great time, and she just text back 'Ok', which is most out of character as her texts are normally long and chatty. I think she is in a bad mood as I won't go along with the change of plan. She's nice enough but always gets the hump the second I won't go along with what she says. Also I think it's a teensy bit rude that she invited X along too and we all are expected to suddenly do as X wants, with no regards for what I would like to do.

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BlackAffronted · 26/08/2013 10:43

It is a bit rude on her part. is she really a good friend?

Silverfoxballs · 26/08/2013 10:45

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eurochick · 26/08/2013 10:46

Very rude of your mate.

CaptainSweatPants · 26/08/2013 10:48
Shock

What a cow!

Short text is probably cos she knows she's out of order

Mia4 · 26/08/2013 10:52

It is rude, think nothing more on it OP and let her come to you and make new plans.

Mojavewonderer · 26/08/2013 10:57

Oh how very childish. Normally peeps say 'do you mind if so and so comes?' Your mate was very rude to just dump it on you like that and then to actually change what you were going to do too! Well your better off not going tbh, take your child shopping on your own and treat yourself to something nice! Sod her!

pianodoodle · 26/08/2013 11:53

Very rude of her. If I was invited to go somewhere with friends who had already made plans I wouldn't make them change the plans to suit me!

I'd either go with what they were already doing or not go!

Nancy66 · 26/08/2013 11:54

It was rude - but I think you should have said 'don't fancy cinema, can we stick with original plan?' and you could still be having your day out....

WeeS · 26/08/2013 12:03

If she was that good a friend she would have come back to you to say she'll stick with the original plan & arrange to go to the cinema with X another day... I think you did the right thing. I would be miffed but maybe she just wasn't thinking. I would wait for her to come to you to arrange another outing.
I suspect the"ok" response is due to her realising her behaviour is a bit crap.

Xales · 26/08/2013 12:09

So she invited another person who doesn't want to do what you and she originally planned and happily changed for them and gets pissy if you don't fall in line.

Other friend is more important to her and you are expected to do as told.

Not such a good friend. Cool the friendship and don't allow her to upset or affect you when she messes you around.

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